Do you have any idea how important your connection with your boyfriend is if you ever have any hope of getting him back? Most women focus on trying to talk through the problems in the relationship and resolving issues in hopes of getting their boyfriend back but without a connection you aren't going to get anywhere. Plain and simple… if your boyfriend isn't feeling some sort of connection with you and isn't motivated by his heart and mind to feel something for you he will never be open to getting back together.

Let's think about this for a minute. How much fun is it to talk about problems? Not very fun, is it? This is the reason why most men would rather take a beating than talk through relationship problems or attend therapy or couples counseling. On the other hand, if you were able to seduce your boyfriend and get him motivated he would probably do anything under the sun for you including shock therapy, if need be!

But how do you get from point A to point B? If you have spent a lot of time trying to convince him to change his mind and get back together with you he is probably very turned off and you probably don't have much of a connection with him, right? There are ways to recreate that connection though.

Voice - Your voice does have a strong impact on your boyfriend. It is probably a stronger force than either of you realizes. Of course, there is a very good chance that right now he might not be talking with you. If you have been calling him and emailing him and texting him wanting to talk about the breakup there is a very good chance that he could be turned off by your voice.

There is a way around this though and a way to get him to be drawn to your voice again. While it is important to avoid conversations about negative things like the breakup and the possibility of getting back together again it is equally important to remind him of the good times that you had. If you have any inside jokes or anything that can make you laugh…a memory of a funny incident or even an opportunity to pick on him a little bit can help recreate that connection that can lead to getting your boyfriend back.

Visually - How you look and how you carry yourself can go a long way in recreating a connection with your boyfriend. It is said that most of what you say is done through body language and the ability to send the right signals with your body language is powerful stuff.

Smiling and being open with your body language shows your boyfriend that you still care for him without saying a word. A sparkle in your eyes and a smile upon your lips will subliminally speak to your boyfriend's heart. Your body language can slip behind the wall that he has built around his heart and allow you to being to recreate that connection that will eventually get him back.

Touch - This has been saved for last for a reason. The power of touch or making physical contact with your boyfriend even incidentally, such as touching his back or arm "unintentionally" can have a very profound impact on the emotions and feelings that your boyfriend has for you. Even if he seems as if he is not interested or resisting, this simple yet powerful act of making physical contact is what he really does crave deep down inside. It can melt away the ice that has formed around his heart and make him remember what it was like to be with you if it has been a long time since you touched him.

All of these methods are effective ways of sneaking past the defenses that your boyfriend has put up to keep you out. But with these tips you can easily get past anything that he throws in your way like a skilled ninja and make your way to his heart.