1) Always Stay True to Your Feelings: If you feel uneasy about your friend telling you about her private life. STAND FIRM, and be gentle that you would really like to have conversation with her, but that you don't feel that you need to know about her private life. "And if you care to know, I really feel uneasy about....It is not about you or him, it is just that everyone has her private bubble. I love you as a friend, please be respectful of me, and do not engage me in conversation as such." or similar statement.

2) I think you need to take a boundaries setting course, which is cool. When I first try to pick up my self assurance, the first thing I need to learn is:

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A) I need to feel good about me. Read more below (all)

B) Imagine this, if you think or judge or feel or know that you do not like school, nobody can change your opinion or way of feeling and thinking. ..The only chance you will like someone or something... it is you who think that person is nice. The other person probably not trying to impress you. Imagine again that if that person is trying to impress everyone she meet... it is impossible... everyone perference is so different. MY POINT IS we can only control our behavior, feeling and thought... and we can't change others, we can only change us. So why bother trying to change their opinions.

C) Get this into your mindset: Whatever hearsay cannot really believe as true, so instead of figuring who is saying what behind your back or what their plan is... Ignore it. Why? Because you are unique just like I am. PRINT THIS IN YOUR BRAIN: I am good and unique, and it doesn't matter what I do, people will still like me, because I am I, this is my style, and who cares who dislike about it. As long as my guts tell me I am not doing any harm to others and to self, there is no reason why I shall give a damn to any of their saying. Afterall, if I can be defeated by rumors, or gossips. I am not that unique. But I am unqiue, because there is only I who act, think, feel the way I do. People who likes me say I am cool. People who dislike me think I am odd. People who always do whatever other people does, think I am not in status quo. DIFFERENT PEOPLE, think of me differently but actually my behavior is the same. SEE, it is not about you, it is their psyche. AND WHOEVER MEANT TO BE MY TRUE FRIENDS will always think I am extraordinary, just like how I think of them is. And they will always be on my side and support me, even they might disagree with me, or learned about my weakness. Think about it. Is that what you have in mind, if you were them who is the one who is need of understanding? NEVER ACCEPT ANYTHING LESS THEN AN EQUAL.... meaning friends shall have GROUND RULES and MUTUAL UNDERSTANDING.

D) And if you do hear it, pretend you never did. The worst is that you let those who dislike know that you know what they dont' want you to know- the truth that they aren't true to you. And as long as you don't make it obvious that you know about their talk, you can always keep them off guard and remain where your relationship is currently is. Once you declare you know about it, the relationshp will change. THE POINT IS, knowing their game in your mind without them being aware, you can better prepare how not to fall into their traps. And you can get to know their lies even more. If you tell them you know, you will only discover that once instance, and you might not know that their might be something more to what you are knowing now.

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Now you need to attract friends that is worth your time and love. If you haven't download the DVD "The Secret" You shall. The Law of Attraction really do work.

A) How to feel good about me, and have friends like me?
Do you have a role model who has great confidence and is a social butterfly that you admire? How does she talk, walk, behave in different situations. Imagine you are performing all these in your mind and getting all the response you want, while you are smiling to your reflection in mirrors. (Seriously I am a witness of this method work) Why does it work? Of course IF you ONLY fancy about your dream, it will never be true. But how about if practice visualization, imagining how you are going to enjoy your victory, while PRACTICING IN ACTION.

B) I DO NOT mean that you shall be copy cat. What is needed to copy is the air of the person. There are certain things that they did and make you admired that person you are setting as role model. DO EXACTLY HOW THEY CREATE THAT FEELING FOR YOU.

K, so now it come to the feeling good CORE part. E.g If you do not feel you can do math, you are very unlikely going to practice math. AND I just mention we need practice the act of our thought.

SO, you really need to work with the mirror, visualize the outcome, and get those word that I MENTION shall be printed in your mind and the mindset that you deserve to have.

NOW when you get everything pull together, you will do the action you so desire yourself doing and watch the response.

P.S When you present yourself that you have self assurance, other will see and response to your positive vibe and action.