Does He Really Love You - How To Tell Instantly?


by Tina L. Jones - Date: 2010-08-06 - Word Count: 409 Share This!

Are you sure that your boyfriend really loves you? Have you ever wondered if his motives are really pure? Do you sometimes feel used? Read the through the following examples to find out if he really loves you or if he's in it for selfish reasons.

Guys are good at saying "I love you" to get something they want. They have learned the basic principle of giving love to get sex. Women typically think they have to give sex to get love. Unfortunately, this doesn't ring true for the women. They are definitely getting the unfair advantage in the deal. Men can pretend to give love and be rewarded with sex. For women who give sex to get love in return, this rarely occurs.

In many happy marriages, the husband will actually admit that he had fallen in love with his wife during their dating years before ever having sex. It occurred during the time that they were connecting emotionally and on a friendship level. So the first way to tell if he really loves you is to take a break from the physical aspects of the relationship.

If he can't handle a short hiatus (a couple of weeks) from the sexual relationship, it is obvious that true love is not present; he was simply using you for his own pleasure.

Another case that can prove his love is his response to your desires to better yourself. For example, if you decide to go back to school for a degree that will help you in your career, does he jump on board and figure out ways to support you physically, emotionally, and financially? If so, he is obviously in love because he is excited for you when it won't benefit him at all.

A guy that isn't in the relationship for the right reasons will automatically look at your plans and determine how they will affect him and his schedule, money, or comfort level. For this guy, he is probably more in love with himself.

Lastly, does he honor requests that you make about his activities and habits? How would he react if you asked him to quit smoking? What about if you told him you didn't want him to go to a strip club with his friends? The guy that would honor your wishes, even if he didn't understand them, is the guy who really loves you. It will be an easy decision for him to put your desires above his own.

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