Things You Should Not Talk About on a First Date

by Stewart Wrighter - Date: 2010-11-15 - Word Count: 537 Share This!

First dates can be stressful, but they can also be a lot of fun. If you make the situation low pressure and just try to get to know someone a little better, it can be an enjoyable experience for both people. Some people have a tendency of going into a first date with the intention of determining if the person is potential marriage material. Instead of making things that high pressure, just look at it as a chance to meet a new friend. This means you should not delve too deep into their personal life. It takes time to build friendships and if you are too nosy or too aggressive, it would put anyone off. Keep the conversation easy and do your best to avoid certain topics. For starters, do not talk too much about financial issues. While you can discuss your work, there is no need to get into investments, earnings, or financial problems. Do not share information about you hiring a bankruptcy attorney and do not expect your date to share their work with a bankruptcy lawyer. The only reason topics like this should come up on a first date is if either of you works in the field for a living.

When beginning a new friendship that could blossom into more, try to avoid talking about previous relationships. Your date may ask you whether you are divorced or how long you have been single, and there is nothing wrong with being honest and upfront about your relationship status. There is no reason to get into the specific though about why the relationship ended or how you feel about this person now. Never bad mouth your ex while on a date because it will raise all kinds of red flags for your new potential mate.

If you really click with the person on your first date, you may get carried away and start imagining a future together. While a little indulgent fantasy is not going to hurt anyone, keep your dreams to yourself. Talking about marriage puts the relationship on a fast-track to disaster. Even if you are thinking this might be love at first sight, play it cool during the early days of the relationship.

Limit topics that are too personal on your first date with someone. If your church and religion are a major part of your life, chances are good it will come up in conversation. Talking about how you spend your time is non-threatening, but tying it to a potential relationship can cause problems. At the very least, it can put a damper on the rest of your date. Make no mention of your relationship in regard to your religious beliefs. If you think the relationship is not going to work out due to your beliefs, keep the information to yourself and move on. There is no need to make anyone uncomfortable during the date.

Finally, do your best to stay away from controversial topics. If you are a person who likes to argue and discuss issues, this can be tough. Do not pretend to be someone you are not, but do not antagonize your date if they are uncomfortable talking about certain things. Save your debates for friendships that are on more solid ground.

Stewart Wrighter recently spent time researching bankruptcy with the help of a Miami bankruptcy attorney. He hired a Miami bankruptcy lawyer to join his legal staff.n
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