Why Not Now?
Suddenly a very loud and nerve-tingling sound dwarfed the area, a cry that appeared to bring everyone to attention. The loud shrill echoed once again, but this time followed by a small voice with stern aggression stating, "Why can't I get it now?" Glancing over, and noticeably not the only one doing so, I saw a frazzled mother in a debate with her young child. Apparently, the young child had found a certain toy, and felt going home without this item was unheard of. Once again he let out a loud shrill followed by "I want it now!" The mother knelt down next to her young son and with the best reasoning she could muster stated, "because honey, Santa might be bringing this to you for Christmas!" She gently took the teary-eyed little lad down the aisle and with the look of regret for the embarrassment, left the store.
We appear to learn at a very early age the words 'Why not now?', and continue to carry this with us into our adult life. We ask why we cannot have the things we want right now, or why some appear to receive good things in life so quickly and some not at all. One tends to question life itself at times, especially when the expectations are not immediate. In the words of the young child in the department store, we simply 'want it now!'
In my profession, this is especially true for those who want a validation from loved ones who have moved on. Grief is an especially hard emotion to understand. Grief may envelope several emotions such as denial, sadness, and anger. I feel we must understand that each of us expresses grief in different ways, and what one may perceive as a comforting solution may not be to another.
The transformation of a loved one from their physical body to a spiritual body often creates the emotion of grief to those who love the one who has completed his/her earthly plan. An immediate need to 'receive a sign' that the loved one is still around in spirit is common. Because of the many emotions, the 'want it now' feeling signifies a prayer for hope that the loved one is alive in life-after.
In a consultation, the question of 'when will I receive a sign?' often appears in the conversation. Due to the many differences of grief, I will ask for guidance on how to express my response. In a way, it relates to the mother and young son in the department store. We so much want it now that one forgets that when life is forever through faith, a few years to us are just a few seconds to those who are in everlasting life.
Due to one wanting an immediate sign, one often will overlook the validations that may have already been given. A sign may be given through a song, or an object, or as simple as a sudden thought. We overlook our validations simply because we often will perceive as 'imagination or coincidence'. Logic is a part of understanding, but what may not be logical today will be logical in time.
Early Christmas morning, the little boy filled the home with joy and laughter as he opened the present that he 'wanted now'. Mother watched as her young son played with his special gift and smiled. She knew in some way she had taught her loving son to have faith, to believe, be patient, - and you will receive the gift in time.
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Rick Hayes is the founder of LifesGift, Inc. - an association that supports his consultation and speaking engagement services. As a Paranormal Communications Consultant with unique abilities, Rick consults on a daily basis with those that have questions regarding life and life-after.
As a speaker and lecturer, Rick has shared his thoughts with inspiration and enthusiasm to thousands since 2003. Ricks speaking invitations range from a small organization group of 15 members to major events and conventions attended by thousands. Rick's wide range of topics is designed to accommodate each speaking invitation.
As a published author, his books include 'Stepping Stones- Thoughts Along Life's Path' (ISBN#0-9765434-1-9) and 'You're Not Crazy, You Have A Ghost' (ISBN# 0-9765434-0-0). Rick's bi-weekly article 'Rick's LifeNotes' appears on the LifesGift website and has appeared on numerous print and online publications.
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