Understanding The Myths Surrounding How We Deal With Loss
When we were babies we instinctively knew how to express and process our every emotion. If we felt frightened, we would wail at the top of our lungs! If we were angry, we expressed those feelings instantly, as well. Moving from joy to anger to fear to boredom was as natural as breathing in and out! We were born with innate knowledge of our true nature, which entails being loving, trusting and expressive. So what happens to us to alter our natural abilities to express ourselves and be complete in our emotions?
When we got to be a little older, the process of learning incorrect ideas began, as we start to be socialized by our parents and others in our lives. (God bless our parents, they just worked with the tools they learned from their parents, who learned from their parents, etc., etc. They and we have all done the best that we could with what we were taught.) We began to hear things like:"Don't feel bad", "Big boys (and girls) don't cry", "Toughen up", "Cry baby, cry baby!", and "If you're going to cry, go to your room!" These are all statements that taught us that feeling bad is not acceptable! In truth, sad and "negative" emotions are every bit as normal and natural as happy, joyful ones! Yet, for some screwed-up reason, we are raised to believe otherwise. We are therefore limited in our abilities to express what is in our hearts, and we feel uncomfortable and at a loss as to how to help or comfort others who are in pain.
Every emotion we experience produces energy. If this energy cannot be released in an appropriate manor, it becomes stored inside of us. Imagine water in a teapot that is simmering on a hot stove. Now imagine putting a cork inside of the spout of the teapot. As the flame gets hotter the teapot moves closer and closer to an explosion! A lifetime accumulation of incomplete, unexpressed emotions builds up pressure inside of us in a similar way. (We hear about these human explosions every day on the evening news!)
Happily, there are solutions! Just like with any other habit we form throughout our lifetimes, we can change our learned behaviors. John James and Russell Friedman of The Grief Recovery Institute(r) have created wonderful programs to help us learn the correct actions to achieve completion and expression of a lifetime's worth of stored communications! New habits take some effort and practice, but in this case, the rewards are priceless! I am living proof of how well it works! I have realized great healing of my heart by implementing this action program into my life!!
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JoAnn Bruhn is a Certified Grief Recovery Specialist, musician/songwriter, and author. She lives in Minnesota in the suburbs of St. Paul. Her family includes two adult sons. After a 19 year career as a healthcare professional, she has moved into the field that is at the heart of her passion, helping others.
In 1995 her youngest son, Craig Schermerhorn, died at age 10 from complications of leukemia. Craig's death, life-shattering in its own right, was one of many losses which propelled her onto a journey of grief, healing, and a profound spiritual transformation. It has become her deepest desire to share the resources she has found to help others deal with their pain and grief issues and move beyond the grief to recovery.
She also shares her gifts of songwriting and musical performance. She weaves powerful tapestries of music which will touch you at the heart level! JoAnn is the author and composer of the book and CD, "Sundance, The Story Of Craig", available at http://www.sundanceproject.comYour Article Search Directory : Find in Articles
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