Relationships Articles - How To Get A Girl's Number - Keep The Numbers 1,2,3 And 4 In Mind


by ANGEL DONOVAN - Date: 2010-07-09 - Word Count: 861 Share This!

So you really want to broaden your knowledge on how to get a girl's number? To kick off a good start, first let's empty our mind of all the cheesy ways you have sen guys behave in person, in the movies, or even from a fantasy in your mind regarding how you would ask for her phone number. To a girl, a phone number is often regarded as a private matter and getting that number means she trusts you and likes you enough to give it.You have to respect that, even if it is not a big deal for you since it's just a phone number.

Remember that most females are advised early in life not to speak to strangers, specifically men, much less not to give their phone numbers to a guy they don't really know. Think about it a little. A girl you like might have experienced her share of stalkers and bad guys in her not-too-distant past.Only after you show genuine compassion and interest towards her will the art of getting a girl's number be executed.

The first call to action and a very basic rule is don't pretend to be any one else.No put ons, being phony or fake is useless.Just be your real, optimistic self. The self that puts his best foot forward to a new meeting with someone, be it work, play, or unexpectedly. If the ambiance is a bar, for instance, a hint of confidence goes a long way in your initial approach to a girl.Use that together with a little environmental humor ('is it just me, or does it sound like a lot of geese got in here?), and you have perhaps broken the ice to draw her interest to talk with you and get to know you.

What you are really aiming for is to build some rapport with her, so that she feels comfortable with you. She will then feel like she knows you a bit more. Giving you her number will not be hard for her as a result. To create rapport and get her number, practice the following tips.

1. Be a sharp listener. Make eye contact, listen, absorb, react, and emote. Make sure to give her the floor to speak, give her space to express herself. Don't be the guy with whom she feels no rapport because he doesn't let her participate. If she does not a talker, listen to how she says things with her eyes and her gestures and listen all the same for cues about her interests.

2. Practice active listening and leading to open up the conversation and explore for common interests. Repeat what you hear from her and run with the thread of conversation to expand on it. For example, she said, "I don't get out much, my friends begged me to come out" Your reaction is, "I know the feeling, and like you, bars are not in my top 10 of best things to do. With my friends we usually hang out and have more fun at more private house parties. It gives us the opportunity to catch up better. What do you and your friends usually do?" Then give her time. You have just led her to a new topic to give you more about her interests.
3. Build on the similarities. As you learn about her, you will likely find similar things you have done or want to do, experiences shared from one's past leads to bonding and desire to share experiences together. This constructs rapport. That is a main aspect of how to get a girl's number. If she talks about an outing she really enjoyed, you listen, you react, you reply with a similar experience of your own.Develop your story with interest, intrigue, and dedication.She will be at ease with your company since she can relate your story to hers as a result.
4. Getting her to give you the number. The final decision comes when you need to ask for the number. But because of the effort you've done ahead of time in developing rapport, this is not an issue. You shouldn't be distressed, it will be natural. Simply add "we should try that together sometime" whenever you find something you both are interested in..." Often she will say it for you.From that, you have a natural means on asking for her number.Just add "let's trade cell numbers and I'll call you to set it up... here, input your name and number." and give her your phone.

So if you truly want to get a girl's number, empty your mind from the cheesy ways you have seen guys try in person, in the movies, or even just your imagination. Consider the fact that beyond feeling allured to you, a girl has to be comfortable with you for her to give you her number. So if you have already exuded the confidence to attract her, the harder task is usually on developing comfort (and this is where many guys fail). Be unique, be true, be positive and take the vital points of this article to heart. This is how to get a girl's number - the real deal.


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