The Secret To Creating a Great Life: Know What You Don't Want!


by Annette Colby - Date: 2007-03-09 - Word Count: 564 Share This!

People often say they want more out life. A lot more. The first steps on creating a successful life is getting clear on what it is you don't want to feel or experience, and then following through to get clear on what it is you do want. Many of us get stuck in the same complaints year after year. We blame, complain, judge, and feel powerless to make the changes we want to make. We never get around to using our discontent as a springboard to help us identify our desires in some sort of practical or useful form.

To easily lift out of this cycle, deliberately identify what you don't want. This step is usually surprisingly easy. Maybe you don't want to feel stressed, depressed, locked in, or controlled by food. This is a great starting point! Through experience, you are now able to identify what doesn't feel right or good to you. The contrast doesn't always tell us directly what step to take next, but it certainly tells us what we never want to do again. By eliminating what we don't want, we are able to focus more clearly on that which we do want.

For example, how do you know what type of career you want? Usually, through many job experiences, you begin to identify what works for you and what doesn't. Each experience helps you understand want you want to avoid, your strengths, weaknesses, values, and needs. Each experience illustrates how much money, challenge, or work-to-life balance you require. By knowing exactly what you do not want to feel or experience, you also clarify your understanding of what a rewarding career would look like.

Once you know this information, it's time to take the next step. It's easy to turn what you don't want around 180 degrees and identify what you do want:

"I don't want to feel stressed" becomes "I want to feel relaxed in my body."

"I don't want to struggle with my weight" becomes "I want a loving partnership with my body."

"I don't want to be stuck in this lousy job" becomes "I want a career that allows flexibility, creative expression, and abundance."

Creating a great life is a process. We consciously build a better life because we dare to experience different situations, disappointments, and frustrations - and then learn from those experiences exactly what doesn't feel good. It is only when we feel sad, frustrated, or upset that we realize something is wrong. When we know decisively that we don't want to smoke, drink, feel addicted, stressed, broke, dissatisfied, or unhappy, then we can focus more clearly on what we do want.

Once we understand what we are really after, we start looking for healthier ways to get it. For example, do you want to engage in emotional eating, or do you want to feel calm and in control? Do you want to diet, or do you want to feel more confident, relaxed, or connected? Do you want to be successful with lots of hard work and perseverance, or do you want abundance combined with a sense of ease? Knowing what you don't want helps identify what you do want to experience and feel.

Go ahead! Sit down and make a detailed list of all the things you know that you don't want. Then, take the next step. Turn those sentences around, and maybe for the first time ever, see clearly what you do want!


Related Tags: success, motivation, spirituality, self-improvement, emotional eating, manifest, weight-loss, addictions

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