Nothing is more destructive to a teen and/or their family than the use of drugs. Consequently, the earlier the intervention can be done, the better. The problem is that in most cases teens are using drugs for several months, or even years, before parents become aware of it. Even when parents do become aware of drug use, they often underestimate the extent of their child's involvement.

Signs of Drug Use

If you are suspicious your child may be using drugs, don't ignore the warning signs. Children seldom grasp the concept of addiction. Most view themselves as impervious to peril. For some teens, the stress of adolescence and pressure from their peers is overwhelming, and drugs become an enticing escape from their real world.

Neglected appearance/hygiene Poor self image Grades dropping Violent outbursts at home Frequent use of eye wash Unexplained weight drop Drug paraphernalia Slurred speech Curfew violations Running away Skin abrasions Chemical breath Glassy eyes Valuables missing Hostility towards family members Red eyes Stealing/Borrowing money Valuables suddenly appear in child's possession Change in friends Depression Withdrawal Apathy Reckless Behavior No concern about future Defies Family Values Disrespectful to parents Lying/deceptive Sneaky behavior Disregards consequences Loss of interest in healthy activities Verbally abusive Manipulative/self-centered Lack of motivation Truancy

If any of these signs seem applicable to your child, and their behavior, there may be a destructive pattern developing that may require intervention. If several of these signs apply, intervention is probably necessary now. A response of denial or shame to drug abuse will only serve as additional obstacles to overcome. If intervention is indicated, there is effective help available. Teen Help can refer you to effective resources by calling 1-800-637-0701.

Parental Awareness

Parents often say they want to know everything that is going on in their children's lives. But is that really true? Parents need to know that drug use generally begins months, or even years, before parents actually do become aware of their teen's drug use. Certain topics, such as children's sexual behavior, underage drinking, and gang violence are subjects so uncomfortable parents often choose to ignore them, or perhaps only lightly approach them, often cloaked in denial, hoping these issues will not affect their family. Parents recognize that the consequences of these issues can be frightening, even deadly. However, silently clinging to the denial and hope that these issues will not be part of their children's lives can create an equally devastating consequence. And no topic is any more frightening to a parent than teen substance abuse.

Parenting presents continuing challenges. Putting on blinders will never create resolutions. The subject of teenage drug abuse is very wide and multifaceted, involving many drugs and their variations. It will not be possible to cover all information regarding teenage drug abuse here, but rather it is our desire to broaden your information so that you may feel more confident about parenting decisions surrounding teenage drug use as it pertains to your children.

Why do Kids use drugs?

As we search for solutions that would protect our children from the perils of substance abuse, the question arises as to why they would ever want to use them at all. From an adult perspective the repeated question is, "Who's to blame?" Often looking to transfer responsibility, the adult population frequently points the finger of blame outward. Depending on who you ask you may hear a range of criticism that includes the media, peer influence, lack of supervision from school officials, drug pushers, and law enforcement's lack of authority, law enforcement's overreaction, kid's role models, and parental indulgence, to lack of parental involvement. There is no denying that these can be contributing factors, as outside influences can be very powerful. But to ascribe blame solely on outside influences would be not only an exaggeration, but would be saying our kids are nothing more than victims of circumstance and thus would remove them from the accountability of their own choices. Where adults tend to look outward for "the answers", the kid's explanations tend to point more towards themselves. They tend to explain it from a more personal choice, something inside them urging them on; wanting to fit in, a curiosity, or need for excitement. Understanding the teen's perspective holds important keys.

When asked why, their reasons include those similar to the following responses:

They want to fit in, to feel part of the groupTo rebel against adult authorityTo escape their problemsTo hide their feelings of inadequacy and low self esteemThe thrill and excitement of taking a riskWanting to feel grown up

The "Gateway" Drugs

Most adolescents do not begin with the so-called hard drugs such as cocaine, crystal meth or heroin. Usage generally begins with drugs that are much more easily accessible and, in the adult population, are legal; nicotine and alcohol. Usage frequently begins with easy access to these in the home, be it the home of their family, friend or relative. Tobacco and alcohol are believed, by many experts, to be the "gateway" or entrance to a path towards drug abuse. Generally, even teens recognize the serious health risks associated with smoking. Yet, if they are willing to smoke, it's an easy link to drinking alcohol. By this time, they have demonstrated they are risk-takers so the obvious next level is to marijuana. From there it can be a dangerous, even deadly spiral towards other drugs, and the destructive behaviors that go along with them.

Understanding Addictive Behavior

No matter what drug is involved, the disease of addiction appears to follow a predictable course. Typically, the user begins out of some level of curiosity. If the initial experience produces pleasurable results, the individual will more then likely move on to recreational use, such as with friends, at parties or on the weekends. As they come to enjoy the drug more and more, it is inevitable that the usage will increase, such as using during the week on a regular basis. Soon, their lives become more and more centered around getting the drug and finding opportunities to use it. It begins to interfere with relationships, school, work, and other formerly productive areas of interest in their lives. By now the drug-dependency, the addiction, has taken control, and the individual is unable to function without the drug. If there is not a physical addiction, there is most certainly a psychological dependency upon their drug of choice. And if their drug of choice is not easily accessible, they will resort to whatever it takes to obtain that drug.

Marijuana - what you need to know

The National Institute on Drug Abuse reports that marijuana is the illegal drug most often used in this country. Studies show nearly 50% of teenagers try marijuana before they graduate high school. Many parents of teens experimented with Marijuana in their college days, and now find it difficult to talk to their kids about the use of marijuana. But today, marijuana use begins at a much younger age and there is a much more potent form of marijuana available to the kids today.

Kids site their use of marijuana as a way for them to cope with life's problems, to deal with anxiety, anger or depression, a way to escape, something to do so as to ease boredom. Long-term studies of high school students appear to demonstrate a pat-tern that few young people use other drugs without first having tried marijuana. Of itself then, marijuana is a gateway drug.

The Silent Epidemic - Huffing

According to the National Institute of Drug Abuse there are over 1,000 common household and classroom products that can be used as inhalants. "Huffing" is a form of drug abuse that is on the rise with our young people at an alarming rate. These products are so common, you most likely would not be alarmed if you saw a teen buying them. After all, would you stop to realize that something as seemingly harmless as hair spray, whipped cream or air freshener could be used as harmful drugs? These products typically contain gases such as butane or toluene, which can harm the liver, kidneys and bone marrow, and also cause brain damage.

Most Huffers begin very young. According to a study by The Cape Cod Islands Partnership to Reduce Substance Abuse it was found that 1 out of 5 students had tried "huffing" by 7th grade. And inhalants were found to be the 3rd most abused substance, behind tobacco and alcohol, in the 12-14 year old age group, per the National Institute on Drug Abuse. A California physician, who lost his 13 year old son to huffing spray-can propellants said he knew more about inhalants than most parents, yet there were important things he didn't know. "I didn't know about Sudden Sniffing Death. I didn't know about the brain damage." He also said he didn't know it was habituating, and that it wouldn't be easy for his son to stop. Kids can die from abusing inhalants repeatedly, or even just once.

States a Juvenile Court Judge, "I see a lot of kids coming into court in all kinds of trouble and all kinds of problems. The one group of kids that scares me the most are kids using inhalants, or huffing as they call it". Would you recognize the warning signs of huffing?

Chemical smell on child or child's clothingCorrection fluid on nose, fingers, or clothingMarkers in pocketsRed eyes, nonsensical talk, irritabilityDrunken appearance, slurred speechUnusual breath odorDecreased appetiteFrequent headachesSores around mouthLack of concentrationLow grades, school absences

Meth - The Equal Opportunity Destroyer

Crystal meth, crank, speed, glass, ice . . . methamphetamine drugs go by many names and have many forms. Typically, it is found in powder or crystallized forms and can be smoked, inhaled, eaten or shot-up intravenously. Users are referred to as "tweakers". It's very available and cheap to buy, and produces an extended "high" making it extremely tempting to the young and foolish.

Meth speeds up the central nervous system causing physical and psychological effects that, at first, seem pleasurable: increased alertness and energy, decreased need for sleep, euphoria and increased sexuality. Meth is highly addictive, but once meth entraps the user it wreaks havoc with everything from weight loss to welts on the skin, shortness of breath, hyperactivity, severe depression, paranoid delusions and suicidal tendencies.

A Letter from a Teenager

I'm a fifteen year old alcoholic/addict, though I've been clean and sober for seven months now. Right now I want to persuade you not to use drugs. Drugs force us to cross the invisible line between fact and reality. Sometimes so often that you forget where that was, and will have trouble finding where that line used to be. When you first shoot up, you will most likely puke and feel repelled, but soon you'll try it again. It will cling to you like an obsessed lover. The rush of the hit and the way you'll want more, as if you were being deprived of air. That's how it will trap you.

Soon your money will run short and your "suppliers" will start asking "favors", instead of giving you the occasional freebie, all because they know they've got you hooked and they can see the way your body aches for it. All this is part of crossing the line. Finally, when you have humiliated yourself in every way you could possibly think of, the darker side hits; ongoing despair and deep depression.

With me, it was the thrill and the rush that made the need tolerable. I felt like there was nothing without it and freedom within it. I still struggle with thoughts of "were the hard times really that bad or were they part of what made them so good?" Then I realize that I was just pretending that I enjoyed the mania so that it would not hurt so bad.

Someone once described withdrawals as tiny, evil animals; chewing their way out of your skin, and as if all your pores were opening like a dehydrated plant for just one more drink of toxic water.

I paid dearly for an expensive assassin to still my life, mind and body. I am now glad it did not succeed. So please, for the love of all that is dear to you, just think before you welcome a killer into your body.