Many of us have been in situations where we had to initiate some sexual activity, and failed to recognize the signs.

The opportunity can quickly pass, and as we all know, lost opportunities seldom if ever return. Learn here some secrets of non-linguistic communication and body language, as well as understanding key clues as when and then how to initiate sexual activity.

Personal Space

There is a polite area of personal space, applicable to each person, to which each one of us does not invade unless invited to.

In some cultures this is a great distance, in other cultures, it can be very close. However, close or far, personal space for each person is their personal space.

Invading it uninvited can in some cultures be assault, or even rape. For other cultures, closeness is permitted, but very conditionally. You must understand well what culture you are in, and what each person's personal space is.

Understanding a Situation

Do not ever underestimate the importance of private meeting with someone, where intimacy can be a possibility.

If you are man, and have been invited by a woman, the possibility exists in the invitation. You must analyze well the situation, and environment.

Are things somehow romantically arranged? Has romantic touches been removed and replaced by some sterile business effects?

You must "read" each situation.

If you are a woman and have been invited by a man, you can be almost 100% sure that a romantic situation is possible. Watch for signs and judge well. If there is a romantic construction, you must sense it and move on to the next steps.

Invading Personal Space

Some harmless invasion of personal space can give you clues on how to proceed.

For example, touching someone's arm while talking (or being touched), more than twice, is not a mistake.

It is a sign to respond to an initiation of sexual activity. You too can touch while talking, or make some special remark (sentimental in nature) and take the person's hand across from you.

If your action (and it must be innocent) is not repulsed, you are being given a green light to invade personal space.

A foot brushed up the side of your leg, or brushing your foot up the side of someone's leg (and we mean calf, not thigh)...is a clear invasion. Watch for repulsion of acceptance. Acceptance is your green light to proceed.

Easy Initiations

While always judging the person opposite you reactions, you can perhaps put your hand on their knee, and leave it there.

You will feel and understand how much invasion is invited and how much is not.

Eye contact during an initiation will tell much.

If the eyes are bright and a smile comes to the face, then you not only have green lights, but the door is open.

Holding the hand for a protracted period is also a very good sign.

Use your imagination, but remember, always with good manners and in a polite way.

Initiations and Invasions

The surest test is to actually kiss someone.

The kiss we are talking about is not the polite kissing of a lady's hand.

We mean on the neck or other area that has meaning.

If not repulsed, try for a kiss on the mouth.

Should you succeed, you have succeeded in initiating sexual activity, and there is over a 50% chance this will lead to real intimacy (intercourse).