Is Your Child a Victim of Cyber Bullying? Would You Know?
Cyber-bullying uses technology to spread rumors, hateful messages, excessive teasing or even disturbing digital photos (taken on camera phones). It’s a dreadfully harmful form of bullying and can be debilitating for its victims. As adults, we can quite easily delete and ignore offending or disturbing email and text messages, but children and teens cannot do this as easily. Children and teens need acceptance and thrive on reputation, so even one harmful message can make them feel horrible about themselves (and it rarely just stops at one message).
Cyber-bullying adds another dimension to bullying because the offender can stay anonymous. Many times children and teens are more likely to do things through technology that they would never do in person. They often don’t think past themselves, the computer and the keyboard. What’s even worse is they cannot see their victims, so they have know idea what kind of effect their messages are having on others. It makes it easier for them to continue bullying and to even take things too far.
There are many forms of cyber-bullying:
• Sending cruel and threatening message directly to the victim.
• Creating offensive websites about a person including mocking jokes, stories and pictures about the “subject”.
• Posting pictures and asking others to make nasty comments about the person.
• Taking derogatory photos in the locker rooms (often undetected with camera phones) and spreading them throughout the school.
• Fighting with and stalking people by sending continuous messages.
• Daring people to do things that they normally wouldn’t (or shouldn’t) be able to do… including suicide or participating in school violence.
Victims of cyber-bullying suffer the same effects of victims of “traditional” bullying: low self-esteem, depression, problems with school achievement and behavior and the tendency to become bullies themselves. However, the extreme viciousness of online bullying can cause the effects to be so much worse for several reasons:
• There is no escape from cyber-bulling. It can come at its victims 24 hours a day.
• Bullying and rumors can be forwarded and viewed by so many people in so little time.
• It’s quite possible and quite common that the victim doesn’t even know who the bully is.
• Such constant and widespread bullying can break down a child or teenager emotions very quickly.
There are many things you can do to help prevent your children from becoming victims of cyber-bullying:
• Be especially sensitive to your child’s qualities that could make him or her a victim of bullying – anything that makes him or her stand out from the other kids such as obesity, low self-confidence or the inability or unwillingness to follow the social rules kids set up. Talk to your child about these characteristics (in a non-threatening way) and how you can minimize their effects on his or her schoolmates.
• Teach your child the importance of not sharing sensitive personal information online because they never know who is on the other end of discussion. If they wouldn’t share it face-to-face, it shouldn’t be shared online.
• Find activities that work increase your child’s self-esteem and confidence (such as martial arts).
Just like traditional bullies look for and thrive on the reactions of their victims, cyber-bullies do the same. By giving your children the skills they need to keep their cool and the confidence they need to at least try to let this type of behavior roll off of their shoulders, you’ll be doing a lot in helping them become “cyber”-bully proof.
Robert Jones runs 3 successful martial arts schools in Bellevue, Lynnwood, and Federal Way Washington. For over 20 years he has been helping families to improve their lives through the practice of martial arts. To help people choose a good school he has written a comprehensive consumer guide on How to Pick a Martial Arts School
He can be reached at the Academy of Kempo Martial Arts. 800-508-6141. His schools can be found on the web at Bellevue Martial Arts and Self Defense.
Your Article Search Directory : Find in ArticlesRecent articles in this category:
- Where to Look for Babysitter Jobs
Whether you are new to the world of babysitting or you are an experienced childcare specialist, you - Autograph (life is a Sweet Problem) Just Solve it
AUTOGRAPH( Life is a Sweet Problem) (Just solve it) The problem can be defined as a doubtful - Dangerous Cosmetics and Teenage Girls. Don't Mix the Two
Many people are not aware that many big name brands of cosmetics contain ingredients that are extre - Brotherly Love: Keep it That Way
This is my first article pertaining to relationships. It's such an important topic however that I f - What Jobs Can You Find for 14 Year Olds
When you are 14/15 ,you may need more pocket money to buy what you like. But ,how can you earn mone - Gift Basket Ideas for Teenagers
Giving gifts to teens can be easy or hard really depending on your teenager and what they might be - How to Make Love
How to make your husband feel like you love himHow to Make LoveMake LoveOnce you realise that it is - Why Teens Play the Choking Game
The Choking Game also know as the Fainting Game, Space Monkey, Airplaning, Funky Chicken and a numb - A Perfect Natural Swimming Pool
Just imagine that you are relaxing near an eco-friendly natural swimming pool. How cool it will be - How to Find Jobs to Make Extra Money When You are a Teenager
Are you trying to make a little extra money for that iPod you want, or saving some money for your f
Most viewed articles in this category:
- The Complete Solution Of Troubled Teens
3rd June 2006, Many parents find that dealing with troubled teens is becoming increasingly challengi - Best Acne Treatment For Teenagers
There are several criteria for acne treatments for teenagers. Number one - they must have a high rat - Teen And Adolescene Acne
At least 90% of adolescents have acne — it affects teens of every size and shape, in every cou - The Hidden Effects of Childhood Maltreatment and How Life Coaching Can Help
Violence against women is one of the primary health problems facing adults today. Many people are no - Story Behind Troubled Teens
Troubled teens are young adults those are rejecting their heritage, rebelling against parental autho - Understanding Acne In Puberty Stage
Puberty acne develops from a few simple steps. First, teenage acne occurs when for some unknown reas - Symptoms of Teens depression
20th June 2006 , Although most parents say they would recognize depression in their own children, fe - Your Teens and Their Schools
9th June 2006 , Many students who, for one reason or another, are not succeeding in regular public s - Adopted Teens Behaviors
It can be difficult to know if your adopted teen's anger is normal and within the range of typical t - The Relation between Troubled Teens and Parents
"Many parents know they have a troubled teen on there hands, as these warning signs will help t