Do You Make Time for Love?


by Tonja Weimer - Date: 2007-04-08 - Word Count: 636 Share This!

Do you want to date more? If you met someone you liked, could you find time for a date? If you were dating someone regularly, could you invite the person into your home? Or is your living environment so cluttered and your schedule so over-committed, you couldn't find a corner in your world to put them?

Having time for a romance starts before you meet the person. Most people complain that their lives are spinning out of control. But if you want to meet someone, you need to get organized now, de-clutter your life, and create time for yourself so that you have time for love.

Here is what you do to make time for love:

1. Clean up the space where you live.

Do you have room for dates? It doesn't matter where you live, whether it is a teeny tiny room or a huge house, your environment supports your emotional health and reflects your state of mind. If you live in a disorganized mess, you have no room to create something wonderful, whether it's a job, a relationship, or a new future. For some people, this assignment is overwhelming. The project of doing it all at once puts them in a freeze-mode. You have to start with one drawer, and then one closet, and then one room at a time. Completing one task will give you energy. Don't try and be the Energizer Bunny and just keep going and going. Take breaks, admire what you have done, and call a friend and let them celebrate your success with you.

2. Clean up your relationships.

Do you not date as much as you could because other people eat up all your time? People who take up your time talking incessantly about their unsolvable problems are as depleting as a messy living space. You will know when you have listened too long to a negative person because you will walk away feeling tired and depressed. If that happens every time you talk to one particular person, it is time to limit your relationship. Be selective about who you choose to be around and guard against attitudes of cynicism. Draw better boundaries with the people you do have to be near. You clean up your relationships by drawing the line between what is ok with you and what is not. When you learn to say "No," it will create time for you to say, "Yes," to what you do want.

3. Clean up your daily schedule.

Is your daily schedule so packed, you can't fit a date into it? People with too much to do are often found to be "pleasers." They say yes to people who ask them to be on committees, programs, boards, fund-raising drives, and panels, and they also feel they have to meet all the needs of their friends and families. If you do that, soon there is not a shred of a day that is yours. On top of that, some people are probably mad at you because you didn't do more. When you are single you need time to visit with people you love and go to dances, socials, and as many functions as possible to meet dates. If you are overbooked and overstressed, you don't have time for a social life. When you don't get out to meet people, you start to fall into a pit of hopelessness, become cranky, and appear unattractive.

Do you have time in your schedule for love? Do you have space to allow someone new into your life? If you met someone, where would you put them on your long list of things to do and people to see? Think about these questions and then take some action. You want to stop tolerating and start celebrating what is going on in your life. Make time for dating and get prepared to fall in love.


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