This dating advice article focuses on the subject of talking to women when approaching.
Is it really about pick-up lines or is something missing?



Often I get asked by guys 'What kind of questions' they should ask a woman either when approaching or on a date. A favorite is 'what do i ask when i approach her?'

And though this seems like an obvious question, I can already tell they're starting off on the wrong foot and I then have a general idea of the kind of results they've had with women
doing that; inconsistent results like I sometimes USED to have.

Pick-up lines are so outdated. The entire concept is focused in the ineffective relational dynamic anyways; that in which the man is trying to 'get' the social prize of the woman.

Maybe if a man has the 'right line', then he'll capture the object of his desire he thinks. But what does this do? It puts all of the focus on that which matters so little.

She can tell where he's really coming from and she has already disqualified him for it. He's in the same boat as all of the other men doing the 'wrong' thing.

Despite women dressing so sexy and gorgeous, they rarely connect with authentic men who value them on other qualities and who don't fall into the ironic relational power game.

Why? Because most 'guys' are operating in the social dynamic of relationships. The social reality itself is founded on unnatural behavior and exploitation.

Even though it's the behavioral world in front of us, it's ineffective by default unless you have high social status yourself (in which things are still mostly based socially and she could use you for money).

So if you don't have high social status and you want to succeed with beautiful women, you'd better find something that works.

The answer is obviously not in pick up lines. It's about in being REAL and making an authentic connection with a woman DESPITE her adaptation to this unnatural reality, NOT in selling out to
it even more.

It's up to YOU to know the truth and see everything for what it really is so that you can BE real.

Remember that women even SAY they're looking for a 'real man'.

They're going to open up more to a man they can trust physiologically who is comfortable around her instead of another dude with an obvious agenda sprouting some 'pick-up line' (whether he's good looking or not).

Many of them wonder if they'll ever meet this man. Can you see some opportunity here? so back to the main subject here...

Guys get focused on the right 'words' to say when the whole time it's obvious they're coming on too strong anyways. Effectiveness around women is entirely different than the whole 'pick up'
approach or focusing on the verbal 'words' to say.

It's about the natural relational dynamic between a man and a woman. It's that in which you are the stimulus as a man so that she can respond to you (that's why they respond differently to different men), INSTEAD OF you responding to her social value as the stimulus.

It's the nonverbal body language and biology within both men and women that supersedes logic and social conditioning. It's beneath the surface of her socio-cultural adaptation and it's up to you to know.

When a man 'approaches' a woman in most cases he's already doing everything wrong because he is in the social relational dynamic where she has the power as stimulus.

He's trying to get the prize he's been conditioned to hold high value to and she has the 'power' to reject him. At this point it doesn't matter what he says.

This will damage his ego and he will seek other solutions...'maybe if I tried 'this' pick up line instead'. Yet it all leads to even more frustration.

So instead of asking 'what should i Say when i approach a woman', start asking, "how can I just be my true self without faking anything?" and "how can i just BE comfortable around her very
evident social power?"

Then you'll be getting somewhere and you'll seek the right tools and resources for real world results.

Remember that it's the rare man who is EQUAL in relational power to the power of leverage and beauty these women have. And when you're the man who is comfortable around the power they represent, they have almost no choice but to be interested because you're by default a powerful man - their match at all times, everywhere you go.

Ironically you HAVE to be equal or greater in overall value to consistently succeed with women. Why else would they open up to you? Applying relational dynamics and knowing the secret to
women is your leverage point.

(This is the upside to all of the compound repression you've been through, we can now leverage these relational dynamics to our advantage to become more of a man in all (proper) ways FAST
with the right guide and cognition).

Even then, you'll just be communicating normally to them (you know, like with other 'people') and when their signs of interest show you just take it from there and they won't even know you're picking them up because you're not; you're doing everything the way it's supposed to be done and that's above player level.

You won't ever have to know what to say to a woman when you're in the natural relational dynamic (even with the sexiest and highest status of women). And if you're still thinking about what to say AT ALL, you aren't there yet.

Just 'be'. BE comfortable in relation to power and beauty and be the guy who can communicate comfortably with anyone by applying relational dynamics.