Leaving A Relationship - Why Do Men Leave?
- Date: 2008-05-14 - Word Count: 440
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If you were to ask a group of guys why they would want to leave their relationships, what do you think they would say? Would there be a common theme to their answers or would the reasons be scattered all over the board? Do you think they could be honest with you or with themselves? I did ask that question to a group of my friends and this article summarizes what they had to say. Take from it what you will.
When one guy in the group made the statement "I'm thinking of leaving my girlfriend." Another responds "why would you want to leave her, that's a nice set up? Seems like you've got it made." The conversation starts. So why would he leave a relationship that seems to be going so well? His answer was tangential and scattered. He really didn't make any sense at all. Another guy jumps in and says answer the question with the first one or two words that pop into your tiny little brain. So he's asked again and this time he instantly says "I'm bored."
We decided to ask that question of everyone in the group with the challenge of stating the first one or two words that came to mind. Here's the responses: I'm bored (2); the thrill is gone (2); I miss the hunt (3); no variety (1); I can do better (2); I want my freedom (1). Looks like a common theme here. The majority of the responses are centered around boredom and routine. It sounds like the excitement has vanished and the relationship has lost its spark.
Our group of guys enhanced on this theme stating that in the initial phases of a relationship there is that excitement of trying to win over the lady. Trying to do anything that you can to make her notice you or express some interest in you. We are out there hunting and we want to capture our prey. The ritual of trying to impress a woman comes with a certain exhilarating thrill. We want that conquest and it really builds our egos when we make it happen.
So as long as we can keep the thrill of the hunt going we stand a better chance of keeping the relationship alive. Is that what it comes down to? Some of my bozo friends responded with a resounding yes! But how do you keep that feeling as you settle into a relationship and spontaneity is replaced with routine and responsibility? Our discussion came to a quick halt when our wives and girlfriends started to join us. We would have to solve the world's relationship problems on another day.
When one guy in the group made the statement "I'm thinking of leaving my girlfriend." Another responds "why would you want to leave her, that's a nice set up? Seems like you've got it made." The conversation starts. So why would he leave a relationship that seems to be going so well? His answer was tangential and scattered. He really didn't make any sense at all. Another guy jumps in and says answer the question with the first one or two words that pop into your tiny little brain. So he's asked again and this time he instantly says "I'm bored."
We decided to ask that question of everyone in the group with the challenge of stating the first one or two words that came to mind. Here's the responses: I'm bored (2); the thrill is gone (2); I miss the hunt (3); no variety (1); I can do better (2); I want my freedom (1). Looks like a common theme here. The majority of the responses are centered around boredom and routine. It sounds like the excitement has vanished and the relationship has lost its spark.
Our group of guys enhanced on this theme stating that in the initial phases of a relationship there is that excitement of trying to win over the lady. Trying to do anything that you can to make her notice you or express some interest in you. We are out there hunting and we want to capture our prey. The ritual of trying to impress a woman comes with a certain exhilarating thrill. We want that conquest and it really builds our egos when we make it happen.
So as long as we can keep the thrill of the hunt going we stand a better chance of keeping the relationship alive. Is that what it comes down to? Some of my bozo friends responded with a resounding yes! But how do you keep that feeling as you settle into a relationship and spontaneity is replaced with routine and responsibility? Our discussion came to a quick halt when our wives and girlfriends started to join us. We would have to solve the world's relationship problems on another day.
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