Critics Hate Winners!
In the true fashion of the critic, many of them made some bold statements by saying that the Colts Quarterback, Peyton Manning, had no chance of winning a big, high-pressured game based on his past performances. Imagine that a bunch of people (most that never even played the game calling themselves experts) can make bold predictions that a future Hall of Famer will NEVER achieve his lifetime goal of becoming a Super Bowl Champion during his football career. And they based their predictions on him because of the fact that he's lost several playoff games in the past. And now that Manning has proven the critics wrong, did exactly what they said he couldn't do, and is on his way to the Super Bowl, those same critics are now saying he can't win the Super Bowl! So, even win the guy wins, the critics still want him to be a loser just so they can say they were right.
In each of our lives, we have our own set of critics. People that are so quick to tell us what we can't do based on some past outcomes. People that look forward to seeing us fail just so they can say they knew that we would. There's no shame in taking up a new challenge, making mistakes and failing to achieve it. That just comes with the territory. What's pathetic is when there's someone just waiting to tell you what a loser you are or how they knew you couldn't do it instead of applauding you for having the courage to try. It's pretty pathetic, but that's how people are. Those critics get their self-worth by beating down the person who's brave enough to stand up and give it a shot, even if they fail!
We all have those critics in our lives, both on and off the training mat. And as much as we hate critics in our lives, there are times when WE play the role of the critic to the people around us, whether we realize it or not. If you look back and can be honest with yourself, I'm sure that you will find times in your past when things weren't going the way you wanted and you had nothing but discouraging things to say or feelings for people that were having more success than you. And it felt good when they tried something that you told them wouldn't work and they proved you right. I would be lying if I said that I've never done that in the past because I have during some challenging points in my life. It's true, misery loves company.
So, how do you handle your critics? You don't, you just ignore them and do what you need to do to achieve your goals. If you manage to prove your critics wrong in one area, they'll just look to find something else to use to tear you down. What do you do if you're the critic? You need to learn how to keep your mouth shut, take a good look at your own "warts" and figure out what's wrong with you that makes you feel good when others are coming up short. Once you stop tearing other people down, you'll be in a better position to build yourself up. If you're concentrating on doing one, it's impossible to do the other.
(c) 2007 Paul M. Greenhill
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