Three Things To Watch For When He Meets Your Family


by Wendy Bridger - Date: 2007-12-24 - Word Count: 567 Share This!

Meeting the parents is always a fun and nerve racking step for a new relationship. One of the most important things that comes from introducing each other to family is the feed back that comes. Many people care a lot about what their family thinks of their boyfriend, and their approval or lack of approval will impact the success of the relationship.

For instance, if your possible future mother in law has nothing good to say about you after your visit, it might make your boyfriend like you less, or maybe more! Your family will have a similar influence on you and how you feel about him.

How big of a role should your extended families play is helping you decide, "Is he the one?" While your family's opinion of your significant other should play a part in this decision, you cannot allow it to be the determining factor in the fate of your relationship. Here are a few things that are helpful to do when meeting with family.

1. Observe how he acts around family.

If you are the one meeting his family, this is a great opportunity to see how he will potentially treat you in the future. Most of us put our guard down around our family and show our true colors. Take advantage of the chance to see his. Pay special attention to how he treats his mother, as men often will interact their wives the way the do with their mothers.

If he is visiting your family, now is the time to see how he fits in with your loved ones. Does he easily find common ground with your dad or brothers? Is he kind and respectful to your mom? Or is he making it hard to be home by hogging your attention and insisting that you keep doing your own thing as a couple? These are all things to contemplate when deciding if he is the one.

2. Reflect on the feedback you receive from family members.

Almost every parent will directly or indirectly give you their opinion of your relationship. This can affect your relationship, especially if you look to your parents for approval. Think about the following when considering your family's approval or disapproval.

First and foremost, recognize that most opinions coming from family will be emotional. This means that not all they think will be logical. Also, because of this, remember the importance of discovering why they feel the way they do about your relationship. If your dad likes him because he likes football too, this may have little merit on determining if he is the right one for you.

3. Recognize that family cannot make this important decision for you.

Your family's opinion is usually important to consider when deciding on the viability of a relationship. They might notice things you have failed to see, and you get an opportunity to see how things would be like with extended family in the future. But it is not the best way to determine if you have found Mr. Right. When it's all said and done, you will be living with this man for the rest of your life, not his family, not your family. In the end, the choice is yours, and you must make it by determining other factors, like compatibility and following relationship principles.

So, enjoy the family time together. Discover more about one another, and use other resources to help decide if he is the one.

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