The Effect of Popular Social Influence on Dating


by Rion Williams - Date: 2007-01-03 - Word Count: 469 Share This!

With 'Sex and the City' you would think that more women would be leading free sexual lives and that more men would stop 'courting them'.

I have several girlfriends and X's who are fans of that show but what is happening is that their sex lives are close to very dry.

The show has become more of an 'escape' rather than a reality for many women.

What's happening is a great 'divergence'. What I now call the 'social matrix' is sending out massive amounts of programming that is actually controlling and influencing people beyond their cognition.

The social matrix is essentially more socialistic than Socialism itself. Look at the level of influence that exists today, stemming primarily from America with Los Angeles and NYC as the epicenters.

Instead of bringing people closer together and forming new relationships, social influence has actually caused a great dichotomy.

People are now more independent than ever in relation to each other. Instead of connecting with each other and flirting, they are more apt to be dismissive and questioning of another's intentions.

There are more singles today than ever which is a byproduct of our social environment.

The architects, executives and producers are producing all kinds of great content and programming. But the effect of this is essentially keeping a lot of people further apart than bringing them together.

In college when I was in a student organization called AIESEC, I learned a lot about interdependence, respect and connecting with other people.

Instead of truly open social environments, people will accept what's handed down to them.

They'll keep going out clubbing without ever realizing what a contrived, superficial stimulus-response environment it really is, partly because it's what's promoted and that there aren't any other real options that are popular.

What happened to wedding reception type events or cocktail lounges that don't blast the music so loud that you can't even hear yourself think let alone connect with another person without that social distortion getting in the way?

And I was a club promoter and I'm saying this. There are many things that we just accept as reality because it is all that we see in front of us.

Cultural differentiation saved me from a lifetime of confusion and influence from sources I didn't understand or control of.

I would encourage both men and women to get more in touch with their natural character instead of just falling prey to the social power game that is being played.

Women know they hate it despite all the attention they get from being the stimulus. But they just can't quit because the influence is too strong.

It's up to men to know the true relational reality of what's going on and where they and women fit into it all so that they can make connections instead of building up a further disparative fantasy world of edifying a perceptual fantasy.



-Rion Williams




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