If you really want to get your boyfriend back you should know that you really have your work cut out for you. While you can always leave the fate of your relationship in the hands of fate, if you really want to get your boyfriend back as soon as possible you are going to have to do some hustling. Chances are that there is someone else that he is either interested in at the moment or is seeing without your knowledge. This is why time is of the essence and why you need to put all your effort into getting him back.

Confidence - While confidence can be a buzzword or meaningless word that friends and family give you to help you to feel better about your breakup, the truth is that without confidence in yourself and your relationship you are doomed to failure before you even start.

You should strive to cultivate confidence in both yourself as a woman and your ability to attract your boyfriend again and also your confidence in the strength of the love that you shared with your man to bust through the wall that he has built around himself. And why should you be confident in yourself? Well, your boyfriend fell in love with you once before, right? Love never really dies and it is a simple matter of cultivating and nurturing that love in your boyfriend to get him back. Of course the ways in which you cultivate that love can either take a long time or be almost instantaneous if you know what to do and what to feed that love.

Inner confidence in yourself as a woman literally shines through and is apparent to everyone that you come in contact with on a daily basis. Did you know that? If you lack confidence you may not smile as much, your tone of voice may be low and muffles and even the way you walk will show how much confidence you have in yourself. Are you walking with your shoulder hunched over or are you walking with a bounce in your step and a wiggle in your walk? It should be no question that people are attracted to happy, upbeat confident people more than those that are depressed and look like a walking pile of emotional baggage.

So how do you get that confidence that you need to win him back and exude the joy, love and sensuality that he is going to find irresistible? You may feel very depressed and forlorn over your breakup but you are going to need to push through that and make yourself be happy. Start hanging out with happy, positive people and do some fun things. If you have a hard time doing that, watch a couple of funny movies. Laughing can change your attitude almost immediately and give you a rush of very positive emotions that will make you feel better.

Be conscious of how you look and your appearance. Look at yourself in the mirror and think about being held in your boyfriend's strong arms once again and how it will feel to kiss his sweet, sweet lips a few days from now. Notice how you walk and make an effort to stand straight and tall with your head held high. Maybe even practice a sexy walk that oozes sensuality and makes guys take notice of you again. Remember that men are visually stimulated and your boyfriend is no different. A positive outward appearance and a confident visage that borders on seductive will make him take notice of you again for sure.

While confidence is only one aspect of what will be necessary to get your boyfriend back it really is the beginning of turning things around for you and your relationship. Just keep in mind that this is not time to dilly dally or wallow in self pity. While you are bereft and sad there is probably another woman eyeing up your man and planning on how she can make him her own. Time is of the essence if you are intent on getting him back but remember that you have the confidence and ability to get him back.