How to STOP Arguments and Fights from Killing Your Relationship (Video)
- Date: 2007-06-16 - Word Count: 431
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Endless fights, arguments, and snipes late into the night...
You've seen it time and time again. Everything is going great, you and your partner love each other dearly, and your relationship couldn't be better. Then, it strikes without warning. Someone says something, the other responds, and it's on!
What appears to be a simple misunderstanding escalates into an argument, a fight, and someone ends up sleeping on the couch. Worse yet, one of you starts throwing things, then storms out of the house. Remember the frustration, the anger, the resentment?
Remember how puffed up your ego got? "Yeah, so there!" OK, clearly that didn't go as planned. And you can bet nobody gained anything from that exchange.
What happened? How did a simple question turn into a screaming match?
In your mind, the other person "just doesn't get it". But here's the problem - in their mind, YOU "just don't get it".
And what's even WORSE is having ANY kind of emotional discussion (read: argument) by phone or email. NEVER do that if you can avoid it.
So how can this possibly be resolved without endless fighting and eventually maybe even breaking up?
When a "discussion" escalates into an argument, all sense and reason seems to leave the building. At that point, it's all EGO, and going downhill hard. Everybody is getting puffed up trying to one-up the other person by saying something just a little more hurtful in response to what they just heard last. A guaranteed path to achieving nothing useful.
Could you agree to disagree?
Imagine... what if you don't have to win? Really, think about that for a moment. Do you really NEED to win? So what if you disagree? What if you like something, your partner doesn't, and that could just be OK?
Could you agree that on this particular topic, you like red, she likes yellow, and you're "both right" when it comes to your own life choices. And as partners and friends, you agree to respect each other's decisions. You "agree to disagree".
Suddenly, you don't have to fight. You can be happy together again, and face new days in joy and harmony.
How can you achieve this peace?
So here's a question from a gentleman wondering if it's normal to have fights and arguments with his partner.
Dear Dan and Jennifer,
"No relationships are without arguments and quarrels" - Is this true?
- Edmund (Singapore)
Watch this short video for our thoughts on this very interesting question...
Wait. Get more great dating tips and relationship advice at www.AskDanAndJennifer.com. Ask us your most pressing questions about Dating, Relationships, Love, and Sex.
Copyright 2007, www.AskDanAndJennifer.com. All rights reserved.
You've seen it time and time again. Everything is going great, you and your partner love each other dearly, and your relationship couldn't be better. Then, it strikes without warning. Someone says something, the other responds, and it's on!
What appears to be a simple misunderstanding escalates into an argument, a fight, and someone ends up sleeping on the couch. Worse yet, one of you starts throwing things, then storms out of the house. Remember the frustration, the anger, the resentment?
Remember how puffed up your ego got? "Yeah, so there!" OK, clearly that didn't go as planned. And you can bet nobody gained anything from that exchange.
What happened? How did a simple question turn into a screaming match?
In your mind, the other person "just doesn't get it". But here's the problem - in their mind, YOU "just don't get it".
And what's even WORSE is having ANY kind of emotional discussion (read: argument) by phone or email. NEVER do that if you can avoid it.
So how can this possibly be resolved without endless fighting and eventually maybe even breaking up?
When a "discussion" escalates into an argument, all sense and reason seems to leave the building. At that point, it's all EGO, and going downhill hard. Everybody is getting puffed up trying to one-up the other person by saying something just a little more hurtful in response to what they just heard last. A guaranteed path to achieving nothing useful.
Could you agree to disagree?
Imagine... what if you don't have to win? Really, think about that for a moment. Do you really NEED to win? So what if you disagree? What if you like something, your partner doesn't, and that could just be OK?
Could you agree that on this particular topic, you like red, she likes yellow, and you're "both right" when it comes to your own life choices. And as partners and friends, you agree to respect each other's decisions. You "agree to disagree".
Suddenly, you don't have to fight. You can be happy together again, and face new days in joy and harmony.
How can you achieve this peace?
So here's a question from a gentleman wondering if it's normal to have fights and arguments with his partner.
Dear Dan and Jennifer,
"No relationships are without arguments and quarrels" - Is this true?
- Edmund (Singapore)
Watch this short video for our thoughts on this very interesting question...
Wait. Get more great dating tips and relationship advice at www.AskDanAndJennifer.com. Ask us your most pressing questions about Dating, Relationships, Love, and Sex.
Copyright 2007, www.AskDanAndJennifer.com. All rights reserved.
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