Help With Stress - A New Effective Technique For Fast Relief
- Date: 2010-08-14 - Word Count: 574
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There are many symptoms that sufferers experience when they are dealing with stress, too many to go into detail here. Continually going over past experiences is one symptom that many sufferers share. Here in this article, I'm going to share a brand new technique of mine to bring-in some help with stress that is also useful for relieving anxiety and depression too.
Repeatedly raking over experiences from the past is a behavior pattern that will only result in emotional turmoil. It involves the sufferer selecting and replaying just the bad times in their lives, times when mistakes were made, unhappy memories, and times went life went awry. It is imperative that you recognize how this damaging habit just creates a lose-lose outcome for sufferers.
When you're enduring stress, anxiety or depression, the urge to go over past events with an "if only" approach is very strong. What will happen is that you will blame yourself for things you did believing that you shouldn't have done them, for example:
"Quitting my last job really was a big mistake. I was much happier with my old job, I should never have left, it was a stupid thing to do."
Furthermore, actions that you didn't perform will also be used to beat yourself up as you'll now believe you should've performed them, e.g.:
"Why didn't I buy that nice house when I had the chance? I bet we'd have been happier there than we are here, I was a fool for not wanting it."
Such a hurtful behavior will only fuel stress, anxiety and depression and I hope you now understand how this works.
Because of the selective nature of this type of negative brooding, you are damned if you do and damned if you don't.
What is really surprising about this is that many sufferers can recall in great detail unhappy, sad or unpleasant episodes from their lives that occurred as long as twenty or even thirty years ago and still beat themselves up over what they did or didn't do.
Recently, I noticed that I was brooding over a sequence of unpleasant events from ten years ago and I found a way to deal with it that will be a big help with stress, anxiety and depression.
As soon as I noticed that I was indulging in the habit of going over events from my past and that it was causing me to become distressed, I went to the mirror and seeing my reflection, I made an assertion:
"This cannot continue. What occurred back then is spilt milk, gone once and for all and I won't let it hurt me again from this moment on."
That's a powerful statement to make as well as being completely true, but what I said next is the most important part:
"I am bored with it. I am tired of this nonsense, it has gone on long enough and it isn't going to bore me to tears anymore. I'm moving on to something new and exciting."
So now, each time I find myself about to brood on these events that now exist only in my own mind, I just say dismissively:
"Oh no, not that miserable bore-fest. Totally fed-up with the lot of it, there's nothing worth seeing there, I've moved on to better things now."
It's proven to be very effective at stopping me from brooding on the past, do please give it a go and I have no doubt that it will be a big help with stress and stressful illnesses.
Repeatedly raking over experiences from the past is a behavior pattern that will only result in emotional turmoil. It involves the sufferer selecting and replaying just the bad times in their lives, times when mistakes were made, unhappy memories, and times went life went awry. It is imperative that you recognize how this damaging habit just creates a lose-lose outcome for sufferers.
When you're enduring stress, anxiety or depression, the urge to go over past events with an "if only" approach is very strong. What will happen is that you will blame yourself for things you did believing that you shouldn't have done them, for example:
"Quitting my last job really was a big mistake. I was much happier with my old job, I should never have left, it was a stupid thing to do."
Furthermore, actions that you didn't perform will also be used to beat yourself up as you'll now believe you should've performed them, e.g.:
"Why didn't I buy that nice house when I had the chance? I bet we'd have been happier there than we are here, I was a fool for not wanting it."
Such a hurtful behavior will only fuel stress, anxiety and depression and I hope you now understand how this works.
Because of the selective nature of this type of negative brooding, you are damned if you do and damned if you don't.
What is really surprising about this is that many sufferers can recall in great detail unhappy, sad or unpleasant episodes from their lives that occurred as long as twenty or even thirty years ago and still beat themselves up over what they did or didn't do.
Recently, I noticed that I was brooding over a sequence of unpleasant events from ten years ago and I found a way to deal with it that will be a big help with stress, anxiety and depression.
As soon as I noticed that I was indulging in the habit of going over events from my past and that it was causing me to become distressed, I went to the mirror and seeing my reflection, I made an assertion:
"This cannot continue. What occurred back then is spilt milk, gone once and for all and I won't let it hurt me again from this moment on."
That's a powerful statement to make as well as being completely true, but what I said next is the most important part:
"I am bored with it. I am tired of this nonsense, it has gone on long enough and it isn't going to bore me to tears anymore. I'm moving on to something new and exciting."
So now, each time I find myself about to brood on these events that now exist only in my own mind, I just say dismissively:
"Oh no, not that miserable bore-fest. Totally fed-up with the lot of it, there's nothing worth seeing there, I've moved on to better things now."
It's proven to be very effective at stopping me from brooding on the past, do please give it a go and I have no doubt that it will be a big help with stress and stressful illnesses.
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