Resolving Conflict without Tearing Your Spouse to Shreds
So, what are we to do? How can we resolve our conflicts allowing both partners the opportunity to speak without interruption and without being beaten to a pulp by our words? There is one technique and only one that has worked in my family. This was introduced to us by a dear friend and Christian mentor when my husband and I were going through our most difficult times.
Our good friend had us sit across from each other at the table so that we could acknowledge by our eye contact that our attention was fully on the other person. Since I was the one that actually called for the meeting I started. I talked and explained what was bothering me. When my husband interrupted our dear friend gave him a piece of paper and a pen and told him to write it down for when it was his turn. After I got everything out, it was his turn to respond to what I had said. I attempted to interrupt and our friend did the same to me. I had to hold my comments till he was finished then it was my turn again. This went on until each of us had nothing further to say.
Quite frankly, this was the first time in 10 years of marriage that I felt like we actually resolved something and that I was actually heard and understood by my husband. My husband got the benefit of being heard himself since I usually interrupt him and he wasn't subjected to my harsh belittling words.
This way of communicating may seem a little strange to you but if you will only give it a try it can work wonders in your ability to resolve conflicts in your marriage.
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