Working With Difficult People, Without Being One
A difficult person may be someone who was physically or verbally abused as a child. They may have been dyslexic, uncoordinated or bullied in school. Life may have been very difficult for them, and they've carried this over into their adult life.
Everyone is looking for love in their own way, but a 'difficult' person may not think they deserve love or even know how to receive love. They may not know what love is all about or how to let people into their life. Couldn't this apply to most people?
When you think of a person who is 'difficult', put yourself in their shoes to see how you would react if you had their lifestyle, their upbringing, or their programming.
In the Bible, Luke 6:41: says "Why do you look at the speck of sawdust in your brother's eye and pay no attention to the plank in your own eye?" Other people are our mirror. What we may not like about another person reflects something we may not like about ourselves.
Try not to judge. We are often not aware of how judgmental we are. We think that people are not 'using their heads' when they do not think the same way we do. Accept people for what they are, not what you want them to be.
Everyone works out of his or her own programming. It is our programming that creates our actions and also influences the reactions of people around us.
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Difficult Children
I remember how it was when I was volunteering at the Children's Receiving Home, a home for children that were very difficult, especially those who ran away repeatedly.
Every evening before I left to go home, I would go around the room and give each child a hug and say, "I love you."
There was one little girl about 6-years-old who was a constant runaway. After I hugged her and said "I love you" she started to cry.
"Why are you crying?" I asked.
She answered, "Nobody ever hugged me before or said they loved me." Here was a child crying out for love and every one thought she was just being difficult.
As we get older we still crave love, and so we act out, like that little girl that just wanted someone to say, "I love you."
Using this viewpoint, there is no such thing as a 'difficult' person, only someone who behaves differently from our model of how they should be behaving. It's good to remember that from their point of view, they may be doing just fine and may be thinking about how difficult you are.
When you become more aware of your own feelings, stop running on automatic drive, and start taking control of your own life with positive feelings, you will be surprised at how much easier it is to deal with 'difficult' people.
The next time you encounter a person that seems difficult think of these words.
Look For the Common Ground. Look for the Love In Everyone.
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