Having a guy break up with you can be painful and infuriating at the same time. It's absolutely normal for you to be upset and crying one minute and then angry enough to act out the lyrics to a "bad girl" country song on his ride the next. This is never acceptable nor advisable, by the way.

Rest assured though that if you do want to get him back there is a way. But first we must do damage control here. Know what NOT to do is often as important if not more important than knowing what you need to do to get him back.

First, put some distance between yourself and your ex. If you are living together, leave. If you work together you are going to have to do your best to ignore him as much as possible. Don't let him know that you are upset about the breakup and never let him see you cry. If you are used to seeing him or talking with him every day I know that this is going to be difficult but distance and not contacting him is very important in the beginning. You are emotional and chances are he knows you well enough to know that you're hurting and upset.

Secondly, once you have distanced yourself from him it's going to be time to rebuild yourself. When he does come back you are going to want him to come back to you because he remembers what a strong, loving, caring woman you are….not because he feels sorry for you. It might be tempting to play the sympathy card and I know that you are desperate to get him back. But typically couples that get back together because one partner feels bad for the other usually wind up breaking up again anyhow…and the second breakup is usually longer if not more permanent.

So now is the time to rebuild yourself. Do whatever you have to do to be happy again and feel good about yourself again. Go shopping if that helps. Get your nails done. Go see that movie that you've been dying to see. Do the things that he didn't like to do that you missed doing while he was around. Go spend time with friends that you perhaps didn't have time to hang out with while you were dating "what's his name". Enjoy your life again….laugh and carry on…do you remember what you used to like to do for fun before this relationship. Do those things again!

Third, prepare yourself for contact with him. There is a very good chance that at some point he is going to get curious about what you've been up to. He might even miss you and try to make contact with you to test out the waters and see if there is a chance that you would take him back. Don't be over eager…make him work for it! Be fun and funny if he does make contact with you. Nobody wants to talk about the problems that the two of you had in your relationship or the "why" behind why he broke up with you. Life is about having fun and feeling good, right?

When all else fails or if you feel that you simply must have a step by step plan that is guaranteed to work there are books out there that will help you to manipulate your man into coming back to you. One of the most effective ones is written by Matt Huston and is called "Get Him Back Forever". It guarantees that the techniques in the book, when used as described will bring him crawling back to you.

Get Him Back Forever uses some dirty tricks and male psychology to turn the tables on your ex and actually bring him running back to you begging you for another chance. Of course, we don't condone playing games or manipulation but when all else fails this might be an avenue that you might consider exploring.