You are dimming your power with Anger

You will become angry with these people and wish you could control their behavior. You will resent them, want to strangle them and you will have imaginary arguments with them in your head. How many other positive ways you could use that energy!

Turn the juice back on by accepting that it is really you (uh huh, you!) whom you are angry and resentful toward because you are allowing this behavior. You teach people how to treat you. They do these things because you allow it. Set a boundary and ask people to honour it. If they will not, then let them go you don't need them in your life. With spouses and children it's different, you will need a Coach!

2. You don't set goals

You are dimming your power with Helplessness

You will feel helpless because you have handed your life over to happenstance. You are a target for whatever comes around the corner. You are wishing upon stars for what you want instead of making it happen.

Turn the juice back on by learning how to set and achieve goals. There is a structure and science to doing this, it isn't just having you say, "I am going to.......". There are great books and coaches out there to make sure you do this in a way that will ensure you succeed.

3. You don't take consistent care of your physical body

You are dimming your power with Illness.

Abuse your body or ignore it's needs and you will eventually become ill. Guaranteed.

Turn the juice back on by getting out of denial and educated about good health. Go on a hunting trip for the right foods for you, the exercise system for you, the good habits to create and the bad habits to quit. See the right health practitioner for you, choose the right relaxation methods, the pampering required (did you know that pampering has now become a law?), and the right dental care, etc. If you're breathing, it's not too late.

4. You settle for less than what you want or deserve

You are dimming your power with Worthlessness

You will feel unworthy every time you settle. The message that is being sent to you, this beautiful spirit of the Universe, is that you are not good enough. If you aren't good enough then no one is.

Turn the juice back on by not giving in. Stick with something until you are satisfied that it is what you want and deserve. Or conversely, get rid of something if it is not what you want or don't deserve. This could be anything from a person, to a job to a pair of shoes!

5. You don't follow through on commitments or promises

You are dimming your power with Guilt.

You will feel guilty every time you don't live up to a commitment or promise. People will no longer trust you and even begin to pull away from you.

Turn the juice back on by not making commitments or promises you know you cannot fulfill. Don't say you will do something just because you don't want to say "no" and perhaps disappoint someone or hurt their feelings. Believe me, their hurt and disappointment will be much greater if you don't live up to your word. Then, begin making small commitments or promises, one's you know you can follow through on. This is called 'practice'. Keep practicing and don't settle for less than your best (see point #4).

6. You live in a messy/cluttered environment

You are dimming your power with Chaos.

Cluttered environment = cluttered mind. There is chaos around you and therefore there is chaos in your thinking processes.

Turn the juice back on by cleaning up and organizing or hire someone to do it for you. And then determine that you will keep it that way! Discover some Chinese Feng Shui ideas. You will be amazed at how much less frustration and pressure you will feel. Toss away old 'stuff' that you no longer need or use. By getting rid of the old you create a vacuum and make way for the new. So if you desire changes in your life, open the path for it to come in.

7. You don't control your financial spending

You are dimming your power with Poverty.

You may not end up living in squalor, but at the very least you will run out of money before you run out of month and the spiral downward will continue until you fall into the empty piggy bank at the bottom.

Turn the juice back on by following this very simple rule: Do not spend unless you have the money in hand. It is far too easy to get into debt and that debt to become an anvil around your neck and your life to get totally out of control. Don't fall into the trap. If you can't do it yourself, hire a coach to help you budget, have savings, meet your obligations and be back

in control. Tip: making more money will not solve your problem, you will just spend more until you learn the disciplines of handling money and/or the underlying reasons that keep you from doing it.

8. You are not getting clarity

You are dimming your power with Confusion.

By making assumptions rather than getting the facts, you will cause confusion. You will have a permanent frown and get nasty wrinkles!

Turn the juice back on by not being afraid to ask questions. Sometimes we think we are being nosy or we may look foolish or stupid if we ask questions. You are foolish if you don't. Leave nothing to assuming. Get abundantly clear.

9. You don't ask for what you want

You are dimming your power with Disappointment.

You know the kid in the grocery store who keeps saying "Mommy, I want....., Mommy, Mommy, can I have...., Mommy!, Mommy!"? We could take a lesson. But just ask once and don't keep batting the person on the leg trying to get their attention. You will constantly be in a state of disappointment if you don't learn to ask for what you want. People are not mind readers. They need clarity (see point #8).

Turn the juice back on. When it comes to gifts you want, supply all the information in infinite detail: the place it can be found, the size, the colour, the stock number...details! Sure, some of the romanticism is gone, but that's better than the disappointment and having something you don't want. The same holds true for much more important things in life: what you want in a relationship, how you want to be treated, etc. There will be times that you won't get what you want even when you ask, but there is great power is just asking.

10. You don't make decisions

You are dimming your power with Conflict.

You will live in a constant state of tug-o-war if you don't learn to make decisions. It's exhausting!

Turn the juice back on by drawing a line down the centre of a piece of paper, thus making two columns. Title one column "Advantages" and the other column "Disadvantages". You will do this for each choice that is available to you on whatever it is you are trying to decide. ie: you can't decide whether to move or stay living where you are. One piece of paper will be for moving and the other piece of paper will be for staying where you are. List all the advantages and disadvantages, large, medium and small of both sides of the decision. You will find this exercise will give you much more clarity (point #8 again) and decision making will become easier.

(c)Lynn Moore 2006 All rights reserved lynn@cleargoalscoaching.com