7 Simple, But Transformational, Things You Can Say to Anyone!


by Rosemary Horner - Date: 2006-12-13 - Word Count: 501 Share This!

In this day of verbal abuse it is important to go back to basic positive communication. Many of us are just too busy to think past our emotional outbursts of criticism. It only takes a few minutes to say something of lasting value to an adult, child or senior. Let's look at seven simple statements we should try to use at least once a day.

1. Thank you.

There was a young teenager who attended a dinner at the home of a friend. After enjoying a remarkable meal he was on the way out of the door without saying thank you to the host. An older woman, who was present, pulled him to the side and patiently instructed him to give his thanks.

A thank you lets the other person know that you have not taken their actions for granted. Nor have you assumed that someone has read your mind and know your feelings.

2. "You've made a good point."

Try saying that the next time you are working on a team project. Or, what happens if you are talking with a teen or spouse? Whoever you are speaking with, it is important they know their input has value.

3. "That's a good question!"

This is a powerful statement for any teacher, coach, mentor or trainer. When good questions are acknowledged it encourages more questions of the same quality. It also is a great way to pump up the interaction in a workshop setting. Note: Even politicians could benefit from using this statement.

4. "Very Good!"

When have you shared that with a co-worker, staff or family member? Be sure to say it with passion. A statement like this expressed with poor vocal inflection or conflicting body language will take away from the full impact. Be sure to watch the faces of the person after you have made this awesome statement.

5. "What a great job you did."

Imagine saying that to a mate, senior, disabled person, etc. Of course most of the emphasis should be on the word 'great' and 'you'.

6. "How can I help?"

This statement expressed during times of misfortune can show a wonderful support. Of course there should be a pause to allow time for the person to respond.

In addition it is best not to say it if you are not ready to meet the challenges presented. If you cannot accommodate the request direct communication is important. A follow-up statement can be made. Consider this example, "How can I help? Response; "Do you have 10 million dollars?" Your possible response, "No I don't but is there anything else I can help you with?

7. "I forgive you."

These three words have given freedom to many guilt ridden minds and souls. They can also give you freedom from resentment and anger. Of course it is probably the hardest statement in this article. It will often need spiritual intervention.

Your assignment, if you choose to take it, is to try using at least one of these statements daily. Like a good vitamin, not only will it make you healthy but will give healing to others.

All Rights reserved, Rosemary Horner, 2006


Related Tags: help, motivation, communication, forgiveness, words, encouragement, verbal abuse

Rosemary Horner is a presentation skills expert who believes in connecting people to their passion, purpose and potential thru caring communications. http://www.rosiehorner.com Your Article Search Directory : Find in Articles

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