Marital Arguments: Things We Fight About
1. Money - No mystery there. Lots of people fight about money including those who are not married. This should be no revelation. The love of money is the root of all evil. How money is spent is a big part of arguments as each individual clutches for personal freedom. What must be considered is earning money rather than spending it. Anybody can spend, but earning is the chief priority so as to pay bills, put food on the table, ensure a roof over your head, and to keep the lights on.
2. The House - Unlike many perhaps where the husband is away all day, I work at home. Therefore I am prone to interruptions whenever my wife gets the urge to speak to me about something. Even after work issues pertaining to the house can arise since my beloved likes to organize, decorate, and be crafty at home. Her personal passion can be my personal pain often as we honestly most often don't have the budget nor income to facilitate such. Since we both work at home (as she waits for immigration papers to come through to permit her obtaining work) idol time can be a continual source of frustration. Thus she often works around the house making it a home. Hence the ideas for improvement continually flow. If only the cash could flow in as do her ideas to improve the house.
I take full responsibility for being the provider and as a minister this can be very difficult sometimes sadly. Thankfully for me however decorating, painting, and arranging the house is not vitally important. Yet my marriage is of utmost important. If mama isn't happy, nobody is happy. Therefore I am learning to take a bit of an interest in the house for her sake.
3. Communication - The tone and manner in which we speak to each other is extremely important. The wrong heart attitude is quickly conveyed and revealed by the tone of one's speech. It's not always what you say but how you say it. Beware of irritability and insensitive sarcasm bordering on condescension.
4. Sex - Yes surprisingly even sex can be a hot topic. That is how often you want it, how you like it, and having some time off when you're not ready for it. Learning each other's preferences, bodily erogenous zones, and personal tempo all are vital to keep the fireworks in the bedroom.
5. Career - If one person is fulfilled professionally and the other is not, unbeknownst to you your spouse can release her inner frustrations out on you. Many times we project on others how we inwardly feel about ourselves. Maintaining a positive self-image and pursuing a career in which you are happily fulfilled is vital to sustain personal happiness. Happiness is an inside job. If you are not happy alone, you won't be happy in marriage. You have to cultivate personal happiness and contentment no matter what season of life you are currently in. Count the cost, pay the price, and live your dreams. Don't expect ultimate fulfillment over night. Be willing to work at it and progress daily toward your intended future. As you find yourself and discover your destiny, be patient with yourself and your spouse. Celebrate each others victories wholeheartedly considering them to be your own as maritally you are essentially one. Be kind and tender hearted toward each other as you both grow individually.
These 5 key areas of argumentation can be overcome as you love unconditionally and commit to work together for your personal and marital betterment.
Blessings and breakthroughs for your future! Remember the sun always shines above the clouds. Keep your head up and your heart soft.
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Paul Davis is a life coach (relational & professional), popular worldwide keynote speaker, creative consultant, explorer, mediator, minister, liberator and dream-maker.
Paul is a minister and author of several books including God vs. Religion; Breakthrough for a Broken Heart; Stop Lusting & Start Living; and Adultery: 101 Reasons Not to Cheat.
Paul's compassion for people & passion to travel has taken him to over 50 countries of the world where he has had a tremendous impact. Paul has also brought revival to many in war-torn, impoverished and tsunami stricken regions of the earth. His nonprofit organization Dream-Maker Ministries is building dreams and breaking limitations.
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