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If you are spending your free time reading articles likethis one you are either easily amused or looking for a solution to that "empty"feeling that comes around when your lover breaks off the relationship.  While together your evenings consisted ofnormal things like taking a walk, washing the dishes or jumping into bedtogether.  Alone now and you no longerfeel like a walk in the park, there is absolutely no way you will wash dishesuntil the sink is full and bed?  Well ifyou start jumping into bed for the same reason you did as a couple you probablyare not going to brag to your friends about the conquest!  So now your question is how to reverse thissituation and get back into a love-groove.

 

Probably the number one thing you have to get back ontrack is yourself.  This is the time totake a look at yourself and decide how you helped crash this love-life.  Mathematics show us that it took both of youto create a relationship and both of you have some responsibility in thebreakup.  What your love did or did notdo is secondary at this point.  Get holdof yourself, admit your mistakes and start taking actions to get rid of them.Probably they are all self-centered, meaning that it is up to you to correctthem:

 

·    Being a Control Freak. Watch some television or read abook or two and you might wonder why this has to be discussed. Relationshipsare not democracies.  It is only naturalthat one of the lovers will take charge, will be the dominant one.  This will depend upon individualpersonalities and does not mean that you own the other person.  If you over do your leadership and starttreating your love like a slave then watch out! Over domineering partners, whether the male or female, will definitelyput the relationship on rocky ground.  Ifthis is you then…STOP IT. Your loved one is a person with needs and wants.  Learn to be cognitive of this and you willmake headway in the renewal of the relationship.

 

·    Cheating On Your Partner. If you don't get this then weknow where to send the "DUH" award of the week. If you cannot learn to control this very base instinct then there is noway you belong in a relationship.  If youdo not want to consider the emotional trauma to your partner then think of thepossible consequences of disease!

 

·    Do You Care About And Concerns For Your PartnersFeelings?  Once again, lets get on thesame page here….this is a relationship. The inherent meaning here is that a loving couple wants to share witheach other most of what goes on in their lives. There are probably many times you want to jump for joy about somethingfantastic that happened.  When you do youfeel great when your partner expresses interest in the story.  Do you share this interest in theirstories?  If not then you know where tostart working.  Communication is a twoway street and involves LISTENING as well as talking.

 

 

The lesson here is that if you recently suffered a breakupin your love life you need to start with yourself in order to correct theproblems. If you automatically place the blame on your partner (ex-partner?)then renewal of this love life is doubtful. Get hold of your own inadequacies and then you might be in a position tohelp your lover start working on their own.

 

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