How to Negotiate Your Way Into a Great School
If you have good grades and good exam scores, you're in.
But as many of the best and brightest will tell you, these laurels are only part of the story.
What they and their parents and well wishers don't get is the fact that the entire college and grad school admittance process is a NEGOTIATION.
I don't mean if you offer to pay higher tuition you're in.
I mean you are selling yourself or your child's "resume," to the best bidder. And there are ways to make any product more attractive and desirable, and this takes negotiation skill.
For example, what if the applicant is in the top few percent of her class and her scores are off the chart? Colleges may seek her out and give her a "full ride," tuition, room and board, and possibly some work-study money.
How come?
Simply put, they want and need at least some GREAT students, scholars, people who will fly the school's colors with distinction during their lives, bringing money, fame, and more good students to alma mater.
But obviously, most students don't have such stellar success. They're more, well, average.
How can they increase their odds of getting into a better school than they technically, "deserve?"
Five ways:
(1) When I mentioned the word, "resume," I mean just that, and really parents should start building their kids' resumes early and update them often. I went to grade school with a boy who was a fairly normal kid, but he liked science. His Mom got him onto the Mr. Wizard TV show as somewhat of a "regular." Believe me, he wasn't expected to concoct new chemical formulas, but to be the "Gee, golly gosh!" foil for the codger whom the show was named after. Now that's a GREAT credential! As I recall my friend leveraged that, plus some solid grades, and other "well rounded" activities to get into a wonderful, exclusive college.
Every kid can't get on TV, but he can join the Science Club, publish his own kid-science blog, and do other things to distinguish himself. Anything constructive that makes you stand out is useful. You want to be one-of-a-kind.
(2) If you can attach a photo to your application, make it a great shot, showing you DOING one of your special skills. I attached my daughter's shot of her in her soccer uniform because I wanted the school to know she is a scholar-athlete, a theme that was repeated in the application. She got into the school of her choice, playing multiple sports for them.
(3) Letters of recommendation are crucial, and they are most effective when they come from people with solid connections to the school or from prominent individuals. Cultivate teachers from Day 1. Don't just do your homework and get a high grade. Volunteer to tutor struggling peers, be vocal in class, SMILE and give eye contact to the teacher. These are investments in the relationship that will pay off when that teacher WANTS to help you to get into the schools of your choice. I asked a sitting Congressman to write a letter to a law school admissions director for a relative, and he gladly agreed, acknowledging I helped him, through volunteer work, to win his seat. Pull out all of the stops. Network to find out who knows whom, and target the most credible people to compose your recommendation letters. This is a campaign, and you want to win!
(4) Take every opportunity to call, visit the campus, sit in on classes, and get to know some professors and administrators. Get them ego-involved in trying to help you to get into their school. Ask them to call their pals in Admissions and ask them to pay special attention to your application when it comes across their desk.
(5) Volunteer to be an UNPAID GOFER or research assistant to a professor or to the university's health or dental clinic in order to get that person or unit to support your admission.
You might think you're taking unfair advantage by doing some of these things, but again, you need to STAND OUT to get admitted, especially if your are not an OUTSTANDING student in traditional ways.
How would you negotiate for the very best price for a product? You'd tout its uniqueness, scarcity, desirability, and future value and utility.
Likewise, you need to assert that you're going to be a credit to the school, worth their current belief in you and your potential.
Build that case in every way you can, and don't be bashful.
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Dr. Gary S. Goodman is the best-selling author of 12 books and more than a thousand articles. A frequent expert commentator on radio and TV, he is quoted often in prominent publications such as The Wall Street Journal and Business Week. His seminars and training programs are sponsored internationally and he is a top-rated faculty member at more than 40 universities. Dynamic, experienced, and lots of fun, Gary brings more than two decades of solid management and consulting experience to the table, along with the best academic preparation and credentials in the speaking and training industry. Holder of a Ph.D. from the Annenberg School For Communication at USC, an MBA from the Peter F. Drucker School of Management, and a law degree from Loyola, his clients include several Fortune 1000 companies along with successful family owned and operated firms. Much more than a "talking head," Gary is a top mind that you'll enjoy working with and putting to use. He can be reached at: gary@customersatisfaction.com
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