Using NLP On A First Date With A Woman
A typical failing point for most men is that on a first date, the woman gets bored of them, the connection and attraction fizzle out, and they end up getting the "Let's just be friends" speech. By using Neuro Linguistic Programming techniques, it will be possible for you to get a deeper connection with the girl and ensure that she wants to see you again whilst becoming more attracted to you! Here's what you can do:
1. Mirror & Match
A basic NLP technique is mirroring and matching. People have mannerisms, ways of sitting, gestures, etc. People who are very close will often share these. If you can match them on a first meeting, the woman will feel like she is with someone who she has known for a long time. Here is what you should look for:
Body position- match her sitting position- is she leaning in, crossing her legs, what does she do with her hands.
Match her hand gestures.
Pick out words she uses and feed them back to her subtly. If she says something is fantastic, use the word back to her.
Match the pace and tonality of her voice. If she speaks quickly, do the same. It will make her more comfortable.
2. Be Positive
It is very important to be positive. If someone is moaning and negative, even if you agree with them, you'd rather be around the person that is always positive. If you must say something is bad, negate a positive instead- saying something wasn't amazing is better than saying it was horrid. Try repeating each one 10 times and notice that the negated positive has no effect on your mind. It's like saying "I'm not a loser" all day, you will feel like a loser because our subconscious doesn't understand negations. If she brings up a negative topic, pace it and agree with her, then positively steer the conversation. By removing negative words from your vocabulary, people will want to spend more time with you, and she will want another date because you make her feel good!
3. Pace & Lead
Pacing and leading involves matching what she has said or what you think she thinks and then leading her to a new answer which is beneficial for you. You want to develop a 'yes ladder' so you can say "I know first dates are not always comfortable (she nods), and sometimes they seem comfortable and you might not want to be there when they aren't going really well (nods) but then sometimes you have to take chances and be adventurous to be truly happy (nods)". By adding on the last statement to two truisms or things you know she will agree to, she will agree to the 3rd statement and accept it also.
4. Visualisation
Speak in a way that allows her to picture things. Do this by picturing the scene yourself as you speak. This will make your conversation riveting and will create a hypnotic experience for her.
5. Anchoring
When she laughs or is another peak positive state, anchor it with a touch. When you want to elicit the emotion again, touch her in the same place and it should bring the emotion out.
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