Gain Power In Your Relationship - Share The Steering Wheel


by Tina L. Jones - Date: 2010-08-04 - Word Count: 394 Share This!

Do you need to gain power in your relationship? Does he have his hands clamped tightly on the steering wheel and he keeps turning it in his direction? What can you do about it? How can you get him to share? How did he get all that power in the first place?

This is what usually happens:

You take a beautiful woman (you.) She wants to attract men, choose one special one that she has a real attraction for and make him her boyfriend / soul mate / lover / husband. She wants to make a guy fall in love with her; she wants to make him commit to her; she wants a wedding, a marriage, and to live happily ever after. That is totally understandable and normal.

But a good dating advice column will sometimes advise a woman like that to find out what kind of man he is and talk about those things he likes, and do the things he likes.

She may be so eager to fall in love and have a great relationship with this man that she goes over board and does absolutely everything she thinks he wants. She feels that this will make him happy, win his heart, and that he will appreciatively love her in return.

Male psychology says that it does not work out this way. The day will come when the beautiful young woman will notice that everything is being done the way he wants and nothing is done to make her happy.

Stop.

You need to gain power in your relationship. Stop agreeing with everything he says. Stop doing only the things he wants. Tell him what you would like to do sometimes and remind him that the last time you went out together you did what he wanted.

If he gets angry or refuses:

If he gets angry just because you want to be happy too, this is not the man for you. If he refuses to do things you like, he is not a real man. His selfishness will not let you be a loving couple. It will be time for you to move on.

In a warm, loving relationship, neither one should have all the power; selfishly insisting that everything done is for the purpose of making him or her happy and comfortable. If you feel stuck in that rut, you need to gain power in your relationship, or find a new man.

Related Tags: dating advice, fall in love, attract men, male psychology, make him commit, make a guy commit

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