It is quite fascinating today when I see some parents letting their child or children tell them (the parent) what they want to do or what they're going to do. Or even what they won't do. Do you let your child tell you want they're going to do? I'm from the old school. Back in the day if I told my parents what I was going to do or want I wanted to do in detail I would have been slapped right in the face and put in my place as a child. Yes, it is necessary for children today to have a say so in their activities today. But, by the same token you as a parent have to be the one shaping, molding and directing your child's life. Until your child begins helping take care of the home including but not limited to; paying some of the bills, buying groceries, buying their own clothes etc. then you as the parent have all decision making that's best for your child or children. There are some things of course you can let your child decide to a certain degree. Like if they want to play a particular sport or participate in some other extra-curricular activity.

Some parents today want to be their children friends. That's o.k. to a certain degree; there's certain limits; and a time and place to be-friend your child. For instance, say you were both out having fun at a store or some place of recreation. But then if parental decisions need to be addressed, then don't look to your child to make a decision which is your responsibility as a parent. As a parent today you want to make sure you are in control of your child's life until they reach the age of majority which in some states is either 18 or 19 years old (check your state laws for accuracy).

Reason being once your child reaches a certain age they will be constantly telling you all the time what they will do or what they will not do and you could find yourself being intimidated by your own child. You don't want that. Your job a parent is shaping and molding your child to become a splitting image of yourself. Hopefully your demeanor and your attitude is one that is warm, welcoming and friendly. Your children will mimic your behavior patterns. So if they see you being considerate and kind they will do the same. Yet, if they see you clowning and acting a fool trust me, they will imitate you.

I know we have all these child custody laws granting children their rights. Which is cool; but as long as you are providing the necessities for your child or children then do not be intimidated by the judicial system. Learn the system for your benefit and for the benefits of your children.

Who's the Parent you or your Child?

Your child or children are an asset to you and not a liability. Look, Children are a heritage from the Lord, the fruit of your womb is a reward. Psalm 127:3. If you are struggling with your parental rights and responsibilities sign-up to receive tips on life in general and I can help you with your parenting concerns.
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