Who Is Really To Blame?
- Date: 2007-07-03 - Word Count: 663
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There are people today who have become real experts at blaming everyone and everything for their problems. They have mastered "The Blame Method." It is a sad way to live because they never see the real cause of their problems.
These blamers get up every morning and quickly put on their "Victim" sweatshirt. Out the door the head, prepared to go through another day expecting to be victimized. They spend the day pointing their fingers at the economy, the government, their boss, other employers, their spouse, and anyone else they encounter.
Some of these people even go so far as to blame God for all their troubles and for everyone else's as well! Maybe it would be a better course of action to ask God for help, instead of blaming Him!
I have also observed, and you probably have too, that these blamers are very good whiners and complainers as well. Even if things appear to be going well, they know it probably won't last. And while they wait for things to go wrong, they whine and complain about all the things that happened yesterday, emphatically pointing out who was to blame for it all.
They justify almost everything in their life by blaming others. They really do believe that, "It's certainly isn't my fault." They grumble about how other people get all the good breaks, but that they never do.
The truth of the matter is that situations, circumstances, and even whoever is at fault, are not the real issues. Choice is the real issue here!
The Creator has given free will to everyone. We all have free will to choose what we think about, and we all have free will to make decisions. We all have free will to determine where our lives will go.
Now that is not to say that there won't be any obstacles and challenges. There will be. But, we still all have free will to make choices. We can decide what we want to do with our own lives, regardless of what is going on around us.
I know there are plenty of people who would totally disagree with what I have just said. They will bring up all sorts of things. Some people are more privileged than others. Some people get "lucky" breaks. What about people who come from a broken home? What about someone living in poverty?
Yes, there are a lot of excuses. Those who blame others for their plight in life can always rattle off excuses. Excuses are not solutions. As long as someone is focusing on excuses they will never get to the solutions.
There are people who won't spend $25.00 on a book that could help improve their life, and yet they will readily spend almost that much on going to see a movie. There's nothing wrong with seeing a movie. But if you want your life to improve, maybe the movie money would be better spent on improving your life.
There are those who complain that they cannot afford additional education, not even $25.00 on a book. So instead, they watch TV three, four and five hours a day. And meanwhile the public library is sitting there, free and full of books that might enable them to make a difference in their lives.
Complaining, blaming, whining, and grumbling...what a waste of time!
Decide where you desire your life to go. Make a decision. That's always the first step.
Next, determine what you need in order to get there. Do you need more education or more training?
Next, come up with a plan for action. What exactly will you do? Then, start by doing something about it every single day. Even if it is something that seems small or seemingly insignificant, take some action every day.
Life is not determined by luck or fate. Life is all about choices. It all starts with the thoughts that we choose to think about. Every person needs to decide if they want to be a victor or a victim, a champion or a chump, a winner or a loser.
These blamers get up every morning and quickly put on their "Victim" sweatshirt. Out the door the head, prepared to go through another day expecting to be victimized. They spend the day pointing their fingers at the economy, the government, their boss, other employers, their spouse, and anyone else they encounter.
Some of these people even go so far as to blame God for all their troubles and for everyone else's as well! Maybe it would be a better course of action to ask God for help, instead of blaming Him!
I have also observed, and you probably have too, that these blamers are very good whiners and complainers as well. Even if things appear to be going well, they know it probably won't last. And while they wait for things to go wrong, they whine and complain about all the things that happened yesterday, emphatically pointing out who was to blame for it all.
They justify almost everything in their life by blaming others. They really do believe that, "It's certainly isn't my fault." They grumble about how other people get all the good breaks, but that they never do.
The truth of the matter is that situations, circumstances, and even whoever is at fault, are not the real issues. Choice is the real issue here!
The Creator has given free will to everyone. We all have free will to choose what we think about, and we all have free will to make decisions. We all have free will to determine where our lives will go.
Now that is not to say that there won't be any obstacles and challenges. There will be. But, we still all have free will to make choices. We can decide what we want to do with our own lives, regardless of what is going on around us.
I know there are plenty of people who would totally disagree with what I have just said. They will bring up all sorts of things. Some people are more privileged than others. Some people get "lucky" breaks. What about people who come from a broken home? What about someone living in poverty?
Yes, there are a lot of excuses. Those who blame others for their plight in life can always rattle off excuses. Excuses are not solutions. As long as someone is focusing on excuses they will never get to the solutions.
There are people who won't spend $25.00 on a book that could help improve their life, and yet they will readily spend almost that much on going to see a movie. There's nothing wrong with seeing a movie. But if you want your life to improve, maybe the movie money would be better spent on improving your life.
There are those who complain that they cannot afford additional education, not even $25.00 on a book. So instead, they watch TV three, four and five hours a day. And meanwhile the public library is sitting there, free and full of books that might enable them to make a difference in their lives.
Complaining, blaming, whining, and grumbling...what a waste of time!
Decide where you desire your life to go. Make a decision. That's always the first step.
Next, determine what you need in order to get there. Do you need more education or more training?
Next, come up with a plan for action. What exactly will you do? Then, start by doing something about it every single day. Even if it is something that seems small or seemingly insignificant, take some action every day.
Life is not determined by luck or fate. Life is all about choices. It all starts with the thoughts that we choose to think about. Every person needs to decide if they want to be a victor or a victim, a champion or a chump, a winner or a loser.
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Michael A. Verdicchio is a husband, father, minister, author, and broadcaster. He has been the voice on numerous productions over the years. Michael has a free newsletter called, THE PEP LETTER, at http://www.christianinspirationalgifts.com/pepletter.html . Your Article Search Directory : Find in Articles
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