Taking Out Your Trash


by Kenrick Cleveland - Date: 2007-10-29 - Word Count: 844 Share This!

You've heard the saying, "a person takes three steps forward and two back". How would you like to eliminate the need to take the two steps back?

Here's the key: Focusing on something will draw more of it to you. When you focus on anger, it draws more of that to you. When you focus on being a money magnet, it draws more money to you you. So it's not surprising that forgiveness allows us to focus on positive things in life while leaving the negative behind.

I want to talk about how we can use forgiveness to benefit ourselves in very pragmatic ways.

Are you feeling a blockage in your life in terms of your progress? Where you are feeling blocked would be a perfect area to exercise forgiveness.

You've had a lot of trials and tribulations, a lot of anger and resentment and withholds where people have kept from you what they should have given you; and where you've withheld the understanding from yourself that you should have given yourself, and so on. The good news is...

By forgiving yourself and others, you can clear this garbage out of your unconscious mind.

The process of forgiveness doesn't have to be preformed with the person you've been hurt by or the person you've hurt. Keep this thought foremost in your mind:

Forgiveness is done to benefit ourselves not somebody else.

The first step in forgiveness: you have to be sincere about it. You have to be willing to let it go. This isn't the act of forgiving, it's the genuine deal. And if you find that you're not fully letting it go, then you haven't yet fully forgiven yourself or others. This is going to really create results in your life.

For this exercise you'll need a piece of paper and a pen...

Your first focus is yourself. Can you identify times when you did something to someone that you're not proud of? We all can, I'm sure. Write these incidents down.

And how about times that you've wronged others? Write them down.

Write down times when you were too hard on yourself and didn't give yourself the benefit of your kindness.

Write it all down - a list of all the things that you can think of. For each one, write specifically what you did and to whom.

Now write down how you have carried these within you. What form has it taken? Self-hatred? Anger? Guilt?

How have you blamed yourself or how have you been hard on yourself as a result? You want to basically state that you are now forgiving yourself, because when you forgive yourself first you're going to find it easy to forgive other people.

Take all that you've written and write yourself a letter. Make sure you've said all that you have to say.

The next step is crucial in forgiveness and will really impact the power you have to persuade and influence yourself and others.

After you've got your letter written, take it to a private, safe place, preferably outside, and read it out loud to the universe stating what you've done and that you are forgiving yourself.

Release it all.

Now light it on fire. Burn it up. This process sets all of the negative energy free. As you watch it turn to as, you are releasing anger and resentment and bitterness and all the ways you've beaten up on yourself.

When you're left with nothing but ashes, give a statement of thanks and appreciate yourself for understanding how important it was to eliminate this negativity in moving forward in your life. Notice the lightness and the shift in energy.

Now that you've forgiven yourself, it's time to forgive others...

Now it's time to think outside yourself. Consider how others have wronged you.

Maybe you were really screwed over by an employer? They really took advantage of you and you felt cheated? Underappreciated? Lied to?

Write a list of those people and for each name, write a separate letter. You may have a bunch of letters here but that's okay. Start with the biggest offenders first. The ones that have made you the most upset in your life first.

Now write out your forgiveness for/of them. Write it clearly--what they did to you, how it's hurt you, how you've carried it, and how you need it to be relieved. State all of these things very clearly.

And finally. . .

Now that you've completely forgiven them on all levels, go back out to your private, safe place and read all the letters, burning them as you go along, releasing all of it. Then, spend a few moments basking in the sense of freedom and release that you experience.

Once we've cleaned out the trash, we have so much room for abundance and prosperity to flow directly to us. And this is what makes a solid foundation for your persuasion skills to really have an impact on your life.

Forgiveness is, in itself, a form of persuasion. When we persuade our unconscious to release the garbage, we grasp hope and excitement for the future. Removing mental blocks helps us to achieve the lives we desire.

"Forgiveness does not change the past, but it does enlarge the future." - Paul Boese

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Kenrick Cleveland teaches techniques to earn the business of affluent prospects using persuasion. He runs public and private seminars and offers home study courses and coaching programs in persuasion techniques.

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