Asking a Girl Out - the Correct Way to Ask for a Date

by Alex Coulson - Date: 2008-04-23 - Word Count: 1359 Share This!

Asking a girl out

When you would be dating the women, the first thing that you ought to keep in your mind is that you must be particular about the timings that you will maintain in your dealings with the women. What is more important for you when you would be dating the women is that you have to be very sensible in your timings about when particularly you would be asking a girl out with you.

You might be wondering why timing is so much important when it comes to the matter of asking a girl out while you are already dating her. There are, of course, some reasons. Let them be explained. Tracking back on life many people will find many instances that have been the results of mistiming. There are also numerous people who ultimately turn out to be a failure as a dating master. You might be thinking that there must have been some misunderstanding between the two due to some different way of thinking or some other reasons. Things may be so. At the same time, it will also be revealed in most of the cases that one of the couple has done or said something at a very wrong moment.

To speak frankly in general about timing, there is nothing in the world that is regarded to be the ultimate right or the ultimate wrong. It depends much upon the situation in which you are expected to say or do. If you do or say according to the situation, you are the right one. Even if you say or do the right thing at a very wrong time, everything is going to be wrong with you. So beware of bad timings. Always keep it in your minds that you can never track back to the past so that you can redo what you had already done. There is no scope for undoing and redoing.

Asking a girl out is, of course, a necessity for you if you are already into the game of dating women. How can you date a woman or a girl if you do not ask her to get out with you? You can't. Therefore, you have got to ask a girl out if you want to date that girl. What is important is you have to ask the girl for an outing with her at the right timing. Do net be too early. Neither be too late. You may be refused after asking a girl out at a too early time. You may also be frustrated to see the woman getting married to someone else since you have been too late in asking her out.

It may happen to you when you are already in the game of dating various women that after your asking a girl out she refuses to go out with you. There is no reason to think that the girl refuses to go for an outing with you because she does not particularly like you. You must think that there may really be some reasons for which she may not be able to manage an outing with you. If you know from beforehand that the girl is in some problem for which she cannot afford to go with you foe an outing, it would be better of you and also for you not to press her too much for going out. She may very naturally get irritated. If this irritation turns out to be something very genuine and long-lasting there remains no hope for you, so far as your relationship with the girl or the woman is concerned.

You also have to be very careful about timing even if the girl accepts your proposal to go for an outing. It is true that the whole matter of arrangement is at your hand. Still, it is better for you to go for the outing in the weekends. You have to keep in mind that you have to join your work on the first working day of the next week. The weekends will provide you a comparatively longer time. The haste is also quite less. Since you are getting ample of time to create some higher impression in the heart of the girl, why don't you go for that? You may also get some scope to get involved with her more deeply.

You will also come across girls or women who feel reluctant to go for an outing for a longer time. If you feel interested in dating any of those girls or women, the best option for you is to go for night dating with them. A girl may not be out with you for a whole day. She can certainly go for the dinner with you after the work of the day. If you can realize this at an earlier time, you better opt for the right option instead of trying to pursue her to go for a long dating. It may change your impression that the girl has about you. One more important thing that you must keep in mind before asking a girl out is that the girls are initially comfortable with short dating. The shorter the dating is the more interested she will feel for dating with you. You, therefore, take her for short dating after the work in some nearby places after the day's work. In the process she might be feeling interested in going for a long dating with you. You never know very well when and how a girl or a woman feels sexually attracted towards a man. It is, therefore, better for you to wait for the right moment rather than pouncing at any chance.

Try to avoid taking a girl to the restaurants or to the nightclubs. There are chances that the girl may feel interested in the events going on in the club. The restaurants are, it has been found, not generally liked by the women or the girls as their dating or meeting places. Without taking any kind of risk, you can plan going to some nearby attractive places. If they are sea beaches or hill-foot areas the girl or the woman whom you are dating cannot but be newly impressed. They will be simply eager to go for the next outing with you.

Keep the maximum time in your hand so that you have the option to go with a woman at any moment she intends to go. It never means that you would pose before the woman in a way that you are ever available for her. Show that you are busy enough and still, you make time for her. Advance for the next step when you feel it very natural. Do not be theoretic in thinking that the woman should not be approached too fast. On the other hand, you should never think that this is not the time yet to make an approach even though you find the girl quite willing to make out with you.

Here are some tips or suggestions about asking a girl out. Try them if you do not want to be a victim of mistiming while asking a girl out.

You must feel the problem of a girl if she refuses to go out with you. She may have some real problems. Do not even make arguments to show that she can go for an outing with you despite her problems.

Be flexible while fixing up the time for dating. Offer as many option as possible. She just cannot manage to cancel all the options.

Pose that you are somehow busy, even if you are not really so. Again, do not show that are in a tremendous hurry.

Weeknights are preferable for the first dating.

Make the approach or some proposal at the right moment.

Never express your annoyance or irritation before her if she refuses to go with you on some particular day.

Alex Coulson has been a core leader in the ever evolving dating industry, he holds cutting-edge dating workshops/courses every weekend around Australia and regularly holds dating seminars on attracting women internationally.

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