Advice Articles - Do your own thinking, Don't let others do it for you

by JOHN BINO - Date: 2010-07-27 - Word Count: 509 Share This!

Have you come across a situation where in you wanted to do one thing, but you ended up doing just the opposite just to please somebody else? I happened to come across one recently, and this time instead of being a victim, I decided to be a victor and corrected it. Read on to find out how.

A couple of days back I walked into a convenience store to pick up some food. I happened to zero in on a Chicken Fajita that was of a different brand than the usual. Assuming that the price might be similar to the rest, I picked it up and took it to the counter. To my rude shock the counter lady bagged it and told me to fork out 3 times my assumed price. Even though my insides were telling ‘No Way', my fingers dipped into my wallet and dished the cash out. I walked out of the store angry with myself and feeling down about my decision. As I sat looking at the fajita, I asked myself - why didn't I decline it? Why did I have to pay 3 times as much something that I didn't fancy at all? Then it dawned on me that I did it to please others and to avoid the situation on ‘What would the counter lady or the people in the queue behind think about me?'. James Matthew Barries said, "The life of every man is a diary in which he means to write one story, and writes another."

If you are not any different, you would have gone through a similar experience many times over. You know how it feels to pretend to be somebody else. And it's not good. This incident did eat me up inside for a day or two, but then I decided to correct it and not just let it slide. So what did I do?

I went back into another convenience store and picked up the same chicken fajita and placed it on the counter. But this time the intention was to practice a ‘NO'. As the counter lady bagged it I acted surprised by the price and told her to cancel the purchase as it was above my budget. The moment the last syllable of that sentence was said, my heart became a ton lighter. I felt euphoric at learning to say ‘NO'. I walked out of that store head held high, chest expanded, feeling confident and above me ‘being me'.

Raymond Hull said, "He who trims himself to suit everyone will soon whittle himself away."

My advice to you is this. If you are being held back by this handicap about what others might think of me, go to a convenience store near you and try out what I did. I am not kidding - do it a couple of times and see what changes it brings about in you. It will make you stand taller and sturdier.

Always be a first-rate version of yourself, instead of a second-rate version of somebody else. ~ Judy Garland

God Bless.

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