Dating Tips That Will Help You Overcome Your Nervousness & Anxiety


by Adrian Hargray - Date: 2010-07-24 - Word Count: 790 Share This!

When it comes to dating women, becoming nervous is almost one of the first things that happens to a man. You start to think about what to wear, how to act, what to say, what restaurant to go to, etc - all the things that will only slightly matter to a woman who truly head over heels for you.

But if your date isn't head over heels for you, then these thoughts are normal. The trick is to control and suppress these emotions, so you can have the success that you want. But oddly enough, some men embrace these feelings.

They enjoy the thrill of the unknown. This anticipation is indeed exciting, especially if the woman you're dating is beautiful. Her beauty comforts you, and naturally you want the night to end on a perfect note - so you hope for a kiss or an invitation inside of her home at the end of the night. This is what some men live for.

However sadly, most men are doomed to be anxiety ridden when it comes to dating. But there are some things that you can do to control and manage this anxiety, and ultimately overcome it so that you can have success with dating. Here are a few of those tips:

1) Be honest that your nervous

If you're stuttering, your palms are sweaty and you start to tremble in front of your date, your best bet is to make a joke about your nervousness. Your date clearly sees that something is wrong, so the best thing to do in this situation is to be well prepared for this scenario.

Write up some lines to say to her if you become nervous. This way when she laughs at your jokes, you'll naturally become a little more confident and will loosen up a little - making you feel more at ease.

2) Breathe

You don't have to walk around with a blue face the whole time you're with your date. By breathing in and out occasionally without her seeing you, you will let off some of that steam, and your heart wont beat as fast. This is one of the best ways to calm yourself down when you're nervous.

If you-two are at dinner and you start to feel nervous, smoothly excuse yourself to the restroom or someplace outside so you can get some breathing room to quickly relax. Anxiety is normal. You have to control and overcome it now so that it doesn't conquer you forever.

3) Make a commitment to end it now

Never be down on yourself for something that went wrong on your date due to your nervousness. Make the commitment now to practice techniques that wont make you feel nervous on your date. Remember, you have control over the situation. And you can conquer it now, before it ever shows up on the date.

Don't hate yourself if you're somewhat embarrassed in front of your date. Because guess what? She's been there herself before, so she knows what its like. The difference between you and her is that she has overcome this fear and have moved on - and you haven't.

Continue to learn techniques that will aid in the ending of your fear and anxiety. This will only work to your advantage.

4) Be positive on your date

Remind yourself that only good things can happen with this beautiful woman. Envision a successful dinner, a successful walk in the park or sidewalk, and a successful nights end. If you envision these things, then they will more than likely happen.

But if you start filling your mind with fear and doubt, then anxiety is next to follow. Constant self-talks can be very helpful when dealing with a beautiful woman that you're nervous about being around. You have to learn how to enjoy the moment with this woman just in case that it doesn't last forever. So focus on the good times and what these good times will possibly lead to. This will make you feel better about things.

5) You don't have to be perfect

I think you see it yourself that alot of guys aren't perfect but they have successful relationships with women. So what makes you think that you have to be perfect? It's not about being perfect. It's about knowing how to make your mistakes and faults seem cool, and not to care about them.

So for all of your insecurities and all the things that you don't like about yourself, banish them for good. Nobody cares about them except for you. You need to learn how to enjoy yourself in public. Once you can do this, then you are well on your way to overcoming that staggering nervousness that have plagued you all of your life.

Keep these dating tips in mind when going out again on your next date.

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