Common Myths About Approaching Women


by Jodie Brittain - Date: 2007-02-01 - Word Count: 564 Share This!

Mr. Smooth has a way with women. He's not blessed with movie star looks or a Fortune 500 bank account, but he can approach any woman any time, anywhere and with great success. He is the envy of every male who knows him.

Most of us know a Mr. Smooth and marvel at how he does it. "What the heck does he say to them?", we constantly ask ourselves.

Here's a little secret. Oftentimes, it's not what he does or says to women that matters but what he doesn't do or say. The following are some of the myths or the biggest flaws in our thinking when it comes to approaching women:

1. "She's out of my league"

When men see a very attractive woman, they think, "She's way too beautiful to be interested in a sorry slob like me."

Thoughts like that are the kiss of death. Women love confidence and can smell a man's lack of it like a shark smelling blood. Train yourself to stop thinking this way and you will be amazed at your success. Besides, beautiful women intimidate most men and are therefore approached the least. They will be receptive to a regular conversation with a confident guy.

2. "She won't welcome my approach"

Men rationalize an inability to approach a woman this way: "I'm a nice guy and I don't want to make her feel uncomfortable. She may think I'm a pervert so I won't approach her at all."

If you think that way, you're not being a nice guy. You're being a scared guy. Don't kid yourself.

It's time to act like a man and go after what you want.

3. "She will get in my face and embarrass me"

It's one of our favorite horror stories - approaching a woman, getting rejected and having all her friends laugh loudly at you.

Do you want to know what most women will tell a guy if they're not interested? "Sorry, I have a boyfriend." And that's it. There's no rude rejection or insulting laughter.

Hey, the boyfriend thing may even be true. That's not so bad, is it? Of course, there are a few rude women, but they are quickly forgotten once you come across a woman who is not rude.

4. "I will shower her with flattery so she thinks I'm great"

Compliments are good and flattery works. But if you unload a truckload of compliments on a woman you have just met, she'll think you're needy or full of crap. You can kiss any hope of romance goodbye.

Better to pay her one compliment and an honest one at that. Think hard at what that compliment will be because it may take you all the way home.

5. "I shouldn't cross the Nice Guy Line."

Sometimes you get into a stimulating conversation with an attractive woman. You fantasize about being her lover but are afraid of saying something that a nice guy shouldn't say. You avoid crossing the Nice Guy Line at all costs. What happens is that you turn into friends, rather than lovers, and stay that way.

There are three things a man can tell a woman to demonstrate that he wants her. He can comment on her attractiveness, say something with sexual undertones or suggest a date. Unfortunately, most men avoid these comments for fear of crossing the Nice Guy Line. If this is your problem, ask yourself whether you want to be her friend or her lover. Then talk to her accordingly.


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Jodie Brittain is the CEO of Slinky Dating Australia, a unique Australian-only online dating service, offering singles in Perth, Melbourne, Sydney, Brisbane, Adelaide, Canberra, Hobart and Darwin access to people searching for friendship, relationships, romance and love.

One of the unique features Slinky offers is a special security system that blocks out scammers and spammers from signing up and then harassing members with requests for money, as happens on so many other online dating sites.

Slinky - http://www.slinky.com.au - is Free to join, and welcomes single Australians everywhere to try out our service and meet someone special today.

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