8 Characteristics That Make Someone A Bad Candidate For Mutual Seduction


by Christine Akiteng - Date: 2007-02-05 - Word Count: 550 Share This!

As the saying goes, it takes two to tango. If you want your experience of seduction to be one of mutual reciprocity in terms of meaning and pleasure, it only makes sense to choose someone who is open to and understands what true "give and take" seduction means. Choosing someone involves understanding just who you're dealing with so you can better predict what kind of experience you'll have and what kind of relationship you are likely to create.

There are certain types of people who just aren't candidates for mutual meaning and mutual pleasure: those who don't know how to give, those who are difficult to please, and those who are classic pains in neck (take up too much of your energy for too little return).

1. Someone who is controlling, manipulative and down right sneaky. He/she will find it near impossible to enter into mutual or reciprocal seduction where the one who is being seduced sometimes becomes the one who seduces - their control hungry mindset just won't allow it..

2. Someone who fakes emotions. The most important function of the art of mutual seduction is the transfer of "good feelings" from seducer to seducee and seducee to seducer. That can't happen when he/she is faking it.

3. Someone who signals some deep-seated issues. They tend to translate everything you say or do into their own internal version. It's a loosing game from the get-go.

4. Someone who doesn't know how to have a good time (no sense of "fun"). These people can sometimes get "turned off" without even knowing why.

5. Someone who is insecure about her/his physically appearance. However much you try to reassure him/her that "he/she is okay" you

6. Someone who has too much "bubbly" energy and one who doesn't seem to recognize things worth getting enthusiastic. They'll just overwhelm and tire you out without real value!

7. Someone who is stuck in the past - those who can't let go off the "pain and heartache" caused by others; those in denial about the reality of their past experience; and those longing for the past because it was so much better than the present.

8. Someone who doesn't believe in the art of seduction, doesn't like it, doesn't understand it and just can't be seduced by even a well meaning loving person.

But just this kind of information only takes you so far. The truth is that it's hard unless you've either had a lot of experience with a particular "type" or you study "human relationships' for a living. You will be much more successful, fulfilled and happy, and your experience of seduction much more meaningful and pleasurable when you know how to evaluate different types of people and what they can bring to a relationship, and then focus effectively on those that offer the highest potential for "give and take."

On my website I provide invaluable insight into choosing the "right" people, including separating high-potential dates from energy drainers, types of relationships that will not last long, warning signs that you may be in a relationship in which you are loving him/her more than you are being loved, how to identify who is capable of give and take relationships, etc. My desire is for all of us to be able to choose partners we can have the pleasure of "playing" with rather than against or playing for.


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About the Author: Christine Akiteng, Internationally renowned Sexual Confidence/Dating Coach and author of ebook: The Art Of Seducing Out Of Fullness™ helps men and women cultivate that NATURAL EASE that draws the opposite sex in - without the mental stress and emotional frustration of today's dating dynamics.

Christine's websites: http://www.torontosnumber1datedoctor.com and http://www.theartofseducingoutoffullness.com

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