Life Transitions And Someday Dreams, If Not Now When?

by Deborah Hayes - Date: 2010-08-26 - Word Count: 677 Share This!

Recently we've been talking about changes and transformation for the second or third part of our lives. We've talked about the reality of having an extra 20 to 30 years of quality living to do and we've looked at the exciting choices and opportunities a new perspective on the outdated term "retirement" can bring. We've stretched, looked at ways to deprogram ourselves from limiting beliefs and get to that place where we embrace and welcome change. Now that you are armed with all this knowledge what's the next step?

Its one thing to finally allow yourself to have a someday dream but it's another to actually take the first step. That first step is always the hardest. This is when the ocean of "buts" start creeping into your head. You know the ones:

But I don't have time to spend on myself now.
But this is all I have ever done; it's too late to start over.
But I don't have enough experience or money to do what I really want.
But I'm too old; I should have done it when I was younger.

How long have you secretly thought of your someday dream? How long have you let your "buts" get in your way? If you had taken that first step long ago where would you be now? It's time to stop thinking about it and finally take action!

Here are 5 tips to get you going:

1. First you need to acknowledge that the hardest part is taking the first step. Trust yourself more. You are a competent individual who has successfully dealt with change in the past. . Look back in your life and recall all the times you overcame obstacles to get where you are today. You can do it again. It might be helpful to make a list of some of life changes that you have encountered. Give yourself credit for handling change in the past. You did it then and you can do it again.
2. Make the commitment to take your dream from someday to a plan. Write this down and put it where you can see. Write at least 3 action steps you can take to turn your dream into a plan. Every time you complete a steps add another to the list. Before long you will be well on your way to making your dream a reality.
3. Don't be hard on yourself. You will be out of your comfort zone; out of the tried and true. It's perfectly normal to feel a little awkward. That's how you grow.
4. Get your energy level up. Surround yourself with people who also embracing growth and change and find ways to support each other. Don't get stuck with the naysayer crowd.
5. Find someone whose life and character you admire. Make a list of qualities they possess that you'd like to emulate.
6. Remember, attitude matters! Become aware of what you are saying to and about yourself. If you notice your spending a lot of your days immersed in negative thoughts I'd recommend you take steps to reverse this habit. Studies have shown the right attitude and how you look at life directly corresponds to how happy and successful you are. Whether you use my system or another, don't skip this step! This is an important part of your success.

So do you see yourself coming in from a walk on the beach to work from your home office as you watch the waves roll in? Do you see yourself living on a sail boat cruising from port to port when you want a change of scenery? How about living in a small apartment in the heart of Argentina with the man of your dreams and dancing the tango to your heart's content. Maybe you'd like to finally open a little restaurant in a quaint little village half of the year and visit your children for the other half. Are you ready to write that book, be your own boss or immerse yourself in your passion for gardening, cooking or doing what you really love?
What's your Someday Dream? Are you ready to make it happen? If not now, when?

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