People always ask me why am I always so happy even when this are not so good. I usually tell them the first positive thing I see or feel, My view on life really is that things could be worse, Believe me someone somewhere is having a worse day for completely different reasons. If you are reading this then life really is not so bad, You can read which allows you to learn and become a better person, If you have access to a computer you must have some means which makes you far richer that say a starving child in a country that may be ravished with drout. Even the person starving may feel positive in some ways as they have the sun on their back when it could also be very cold it depends on your view.

This is Your starting point, be very aware of the good things you have around you, regardless of how small they are, and this will give you something to build on. This then is how you take control of your happiness, Find something you enjoy and do it, Start with simple things like going for a walk in a nice place, the beach, a park, it burns calories so will make you look better, If you lack company go somewhere where there are people, say hello, It costs nothing. My wife likes clothes and love to shop online at www.j-lou.com because they are different, If she's having a down day as I call it, I buy her something to cheer her up, it turns up like a present and take her out somewhere she likes wearing her new article of Womens clothing

This usually works as she then becomes more happy and I get the spin that my life seems happier also. This works for me to lift her, as two things come out of it the feeling that I have surprised her and taken enough notice that she needs help and enjoyed some time with her as i have the excuse to take here out.

You can also get Happiness by giving to others, Then reap the reward of your efforts. Adding memories and becoming more aware of what others need It brings people closer to you, Prepare that special meal, share a bottle of wine or have a chat over a cup of tea/coffee Its about effort, Happiness is not going to say hello here I am, happy every after, You do have to put in the effort. If you have recently gone through a break up remember there is always someone else, there is always You to count on, Learn to like yourself, again starting at the positive points, ie, I am a man, I'm not too short im not to tall, I'm not brad pitt but I'm not the elephant man either (yes he had positives, no one wants to pay and see me lol), I can hold a conversation, I can swim, I can drive, I've got a car, i haven't finished but won't go on, But you can see how suddenly if I mount these up There would be lots of things to like about myself, NEVER bring yourself down. By stripping things back to basics this allows us to see clearer that happiness is formed within us learning to be happy with what we have today and anything else is a bonus our expectation levels which we put on ourselves reduces. ( EXPECTATION: the root causes of sadness ). not having a bigger house, not having a better job, more money, better car, etc, etc.

Test: Heres a test for you,
Make your self a really nice sandwich sit down and take your time and enjoy the flavours. The next time you make a sandwich start making a second one whilst eating the first. The latter is Far less enjoyable. You will see that this is what people do with their lives they do not appreciate whats in front of them whilst chasing the dream.

Today will never be here again and a week when healthy would be swapped for a year with serious illness, a cuppa with a friend is worth more than a night at a premier with No-one to talk to or share with, Each sunrise mean a new day ahead the past is something to learn from and the future is the unknown adventure.

Put your best foot forward and make it a good day and happiness is but a short step away.