Getting Over a Break Up: Why Your Date Hates Your Ex
- Date: 2008-10-21 - Word Count: 526
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Here we go again. It's been happening ever since you broke up with your ex. You go out on a date with someone else and all too often you start down the same road you always do.
Your date will say something witty or funny and wouldn't you know it? Your ex used to have the same kind of humor. That's the first thought that enters your mind. But it doesn't stop there because you won't let it go at that. The two of you start talking about music and your date just happens to mention they like a certain band. Uh-oh, here it comes again. Your ex likes the same band. Where as before you just thought about it, this time you blurt it out. You try to be matter of fact about it. You know just saying it as an afterthought.
Regrettably, it doesn't come out that way. Your date picks up on it (just like all the previous dates) and it makes them slightly uncomfortable. Still you both recover and go on with the evening. That is until it happens again about forty five minutes later. This time it was what they ordered for dinner. Yes, your ex used to order the same thing at the same restaurant you are now sitting in. This causes you to go into a mini biography of your ex and a short history of your former relationship with them.
You become so involved that you don't even notice that time has passed or the bored angry look on your date's face. Time isn't the only thing that has passed. So has your opportunity with this person.
There are few things more annoying, insulting or frightfully dull then reliving the glory years of your previous relationships. It tells your current date that you are not taking them seriously. They did not go out with you to be your analyst or relationship counselor. It's one thing if they ask you about some of your previous relationships but even with that you want to only go so far.
Be truthful but brief. They are taking interest in you to gage what kind of person they are going out with but your job is to swing the conversation back to the current state of affairs. That means you and the person you are dating right now.
No matter how wonderful you think your ex was the best thing you can do for yourself is leave them in the past. The key word is think; because nobody is perfect. Your ex is your ex for a reason and it is doubtful that whatever happened between the two of you is all your fault. There is a tendency to romanticize a little too much and blame ourselves for all the problems that occurred in a previous relationship.
What's done is done. Accept that. The reality is you are back in the dating and available world. Thinking about your ex and telling everyone how terrific they are may be doing wonders for their reputation and character. But it is not going to do anything for your love life except make it non existent.
Your date will say something witty or funny and wouldn't you know it? Your ex used to have the same kind of humor. That's the first thought that enters your mind. But it doesn't stop there because you won't let it go at that. The two of you start talking about music and your date just happens to mention they like a certain band. Uh-oh, here it comes again. Your ex likes the same band. Where as before you just thought about it, this time you blurt it out. You try to be matter of fact about it. You know just saying it as an afterthought.
Regrettably, it doesn't come out that way. Your date picks up on it (just like all the previous dates) and it makes them slightly uncomfortable. Still you both recover and go on with the evening. That is until it happens again about forty five minutes later. This time it was what they ordered for dinner. Yes, your ex used to order the same thing at the same restaurant you are now sitting in. This causes you to go into a mini biography of your ex and a short history of your former relationship with them.
You become so involved that you don't even notice that time has passed or the bored angry look on your date's face. Time isn't the only thing that has passed. So has your opportunity with this person.
There are few things more annoying, insulting or frightfully dull then reliving the glory years of your previous relationships. It tells your current date that you are not taking them seriously. They did not go out with you to be your analyst or relationship counselor. It's one thing if they ask you about some of your previous relationships but even with that you want to only go so far.
Be truthful but brief. They are taking interest in you to gage what kind of person they are going out with but your job is to swing the conversation back to the current state of affairs. That means you and the person you are dating right now.
No matter how wonderful you think your ex was the best thing you can do for yourself is leave them in the past. The key word is think; because nobody is perfect. Your ex is your ex for a reason and it is doubtful that whatever happened between the two of you is all your fault. There is a tendency to romanticize a little too much and blame ourselves for all the problems that occurred in a previous relationship.
What's done is done. Accept that. The reality is you are back in the dating and available world. Thinking about your ex and telling everyone how terrific they are may be doing wonders for their reputation and character. But it is not going to do anything for your love life except make it non existent.
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