To Thine Own Self Be True
- Date: 2007-12-06 - Word Count: 568
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Being Honest Pays!
by Rafael Corney, dating coach
Wow - talk about clichés.
But men, it's true!
If you want to be successful in the dating arena,
you've first got to get yourself together
so you're a prize package that women will salivate for.
You follow me?
Listen -
hard core drinking, tobacco chewing,
wife-beating male creatures are just not
going to make it in this game.
An exaggeration, to be sure,
but you've got to take a good, long and
hard look at yourself before checking out
the bar scene or trying your hand at that dating profile.
Where to begin?
The most important question to ask yourself is
why are you entering this dating scene and
what is it you want to accomplish?
Do you want friends?
A lover?
Marriage?
A live-in companion?
You can't go into this thing without knowing
the answer to this question.
If you don't know,
you'll appear wishy-washy and weak to women,
and that is the last thing they want.
So, hunker down, and
do your homework in answering this question.
The second thing you've got to do is
an honest and comprehensive inventory of yourself:
your strengths,
your weaknesses,
your goals,
your failures.
In other words, know yourself.
In fact, I've got some exercises in my course
Dating Guru no. 1 Dating Course that will help you do
this very important and
necessary personal tally of
traits and characteristics.
Third, and last for now,
is to design a personal plan
to get your act together.
For example, if you smoke like a chimney,
then figure out why and
devise a strategy for cutting back.
Again, if you drink too much, do the same thing.
The important thing is to know your motivation
for these less than desirable and harmful behaviors.
Now, before I leave you with these thoughts,
I'm going to give you a strategy for helping you
deal with changing your unappealing characteristics.
First is to focus on the fact that they are harmful to you -
the most important thing, and
then is this trick called visualization.
Ever heard of it?
A lot of guys eschew it as sissy stuff,
but that's their (big) loss.
Here's how it works.
You simply get quiet,
and imagine yourself being successful with
whatever it is you want to accomplish.
But, you've got to imagine it step-by-detailed-step.
For example, you want to give up smoking.
The first thing you see in your head is yourself puffing away.
Then you think about what an ugly, filthy, smelly habit it is:
how your breath smells,
your clothes reek,
you can't breath right,
and you have a nasty cough.
Yuck.
Concentrate on yuck.
Then work out a plan in your head,
and see yourself working through it,
all the way until you quit smoking altogether.
And when you get to that part
where you've quit,
think of something really pleasant
to associate with it.
Got the picture?
So there you go,
do your homework,
try my visualization technique,
and present yourself to those babes as
the most desirable and hot package around!
About the Author
Rafael Corney is a dating coach and has decided to put his knowledge to the Internet, and help thousands of (classy young) men to learn and master the skills that are essential for a long lasting relationship as well as how to spark the attraction that a woman can feel in his "zone".
He can be reached at his blog www.Rafael-Corney.com
by Rafael Corney, dating coach
Wow - talk about clichés.
But men, it's true!
If you want to be successful in the dating arena,
you've first got to get yourself together
so you're a prize package that women will salivate for.
You follow me?
Listen -
hard core drinking, tobacco chewing,
wife-beating male creatures are just not
going to make it in this game.
An exaggeration, to be sure,
but you've got to take a good, long and
hard look at yourself before checking out
the bar scene or trying your hand at that dating profile.
Where to begin?
The most important question to ask yourself is
why are you entering this dating scene and
what is it you want to accomplish?
Do you want friends?
A lover?
Marriage?
A live-in companion?
You can't go into this thing without knowing
the answer to this question.
If you don't know,
you'll appear wishy-washy and weak to women,
and that is the last thing they want.
So, hunker down, and
do your homework in answering this question.
The second thing you've got to do is
an honest and comprehensive inventory of yourself:
your strengths,
your weaknesses,
your goals,
your failures.
In other words, know yourself.
In fact, I've got some exercises in my course
Dating Guru no. 1 Dating Course that will help you do
this very important and
necessary personal tally of
traits and characteristics.
Third, and last for now,
is to design a personal plan
to get your act together.
For example, if you smoke like a chimney,
then figure out why and
devise a strategy for cutting back.
Again, if you drink too much, do the same thing.
The important thing is to know your motivation
for these less than desirable and harmful behaviors.
Now, before I leave you with these thoughts,
I'm going to give you a strategy for helping you
deal with changing your unappealing characteristics.
First is to focus on the fact that they are harmful to you -
the most important thing, and
then is this trick called visualization.
Ever heard of it?
A lot of guys eschew it as sissy stuff,
but that's their (big) loss.
Here's how it works.
You simply get quiet,
and imagine yourself being successful with
whatever it is you want to accomplish.
But, you've got to imagine it step-by-detailed-step.
For example, you want to give up smoking.
The first thing you see in your head is yourself puffing away.
Then you think about what an ugly, filthy, smelly habit it is:
how your breath smells,
your clothes reek,
you can't breath right,
and you have a nasty cough.
Yuck.
Concentrate on yuck.
Then work out a plan in your head,
and see yourself working through it,
all the way until you quit smoking altogether.
And when you get to that part
where you've quit,
think of something really pleasant
to associate with it.
Got the picture?
So there you go,
do your homework,
try my visualization technique,
and present yourself to those babes as
the most desirable and hot package around!
About the Author
Rafael Corney is a dating coach and has decided to put his knowledge to the Internet, and help thousands of (classy young) men to learn and master the skills that are essential for a long lasting relationship as well as how to spark the attraction that a woman can feel in his "zone".
He can be reached at his blog www.Rafael-Corney.com
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