At lot of self help jargon talks about getting out of your comfort zone. While there is truth to this, it can hold misguided advice in personal strategies in finding and getting what you want.

It is a little confusing after awhile, as to whether I am breaking a comfort zone, or getting out of a comfort zone, once I get past the obvious and into the grayer areas of what is and what isn't a comfort zone.

The obvious is when I'm staying in the confines of my own making or I'm loosely trying to follow outside rules, and I make them like dogma.

I'm not so much in a comfort zone now that I can't find a comfort zone doing something else. Who wouldn't find a comfort zone with some of the desirable things out there? One reason people play the lottery, is that they think they'll feel comfortable with the results of a winning ticket.

It might be operating on little information so I end up doing a lot f summing up to reach conclusions based on little evidence and I use one piece of evidence to deduce major conclusions, basically making major conclusions off minor information, or I reach to far into someone elses thinking on the subject without delving my own, and even if this other person is an expect, I am skipping my own input which is going to be needed anyway if I am going to be the one going into the experience.

Unfortunately this can end up being a fall down tactic who's actual effect is like a reach in the dark. And then it doesn't give me more to go on referencing the waters of the ship I'm on.

The problem I may have with honing in on their thinking, is I really don't know how far this thinking can and does take me, especially is I think I really would like to connect the dots and I'm seeing real obstacles to doing this.

What the barriers are that could possibly be breached is really only secondary to the fortress of what you think because what you think contains the impetus and seeing the situation for what is really is for you as a key to unlock your own further potentialies.

What you really look for is the tip off going forward. And the body of evidence you are dealing with as a whole needs to be honed in on. Here is where the mistakes in analysis is often made.

In legal jargon, there is the idea of the body of presenting evidence. On balance, lumped together and trimmed of the less relevant what does it say? Basically, you want to better package to yourself what you are really seeing.

We are taught that we have to package ourselves. At the critical first juncture, and the junctures of movement, what we want to do especially on the persona; level, as in a packaging of what we are seeing, relating to, and finding, is to not reach out for somewhat arbitrary rules as to what must be and superimposing them on the situation rather than sifting thru the preponderance of evidence and packaging it is such a way as to finding a malleable and if necessary widening point where you can reach highlights, conclusions, evidences in forms where you are more correctly reading what you are actually seeing. If things are pulsating a certain way for you, you want to know this.

A side item may be really important to you and you have put things together where you may have made this your focus partly as a means of escape out of finding what the body or center of the evidence contains or you are doing some sidestepping to avoid what might be found out if you combined what the evidence was into a more rounded package where you are not focusing on little ends of the evidence, effectually hiding in the corners of a wider package. Maybe the best fielding third basemen in major league history, Brooks Robinson made three errors in one inning. The package of who he was as a fielder is not on found in this one inning.

Indeed, people really have talents and abilities that they just look at sideways, and just don't want to meet with head on view, but a better package can be also seen of a fuller landscape to better portray the reality of what is.

If someone goes out on a date and fumbles the situation, it still might be true that they have a good personality that can be seen operative in many and varied situations and still hopefully can therefore come thru in new situations of opportunity and find new landing points.

Can I let the rain fall on me sometimes. If this is what is happening, this is what is happening and my zone of success might be found somewhere here, not ruled by far off celestial outcomes.

Can the success I want find a center to who and where I am right now? If the victory comes, will I claim it, or just leave it alone and never open the package that does say yes?

Not that you want to be looking in the mirror all day because you have to get out there, but if your starting to do this about situations, opportunities, and people, and this is at times a miss packaging all of these things, then you might be doing this to yourself as far as how you are packaging your own talents as well. I'm not only misreading others by taking a narrow view of the corners, but I am also doing this to myself as well.

Think of a dispute, possibly ending a relationship with someone who you actually think is great. Your thinking on this is in the body, not on the outskirts and the outliers of your thinking. But the dispute, is on the outskirts and outliers, and yet you have let it rule the body. You have placed the wrong package on what is the truth and picked some rules that lord over the body of evidence and don't deserve to lord over the body of evidence.

You can still let go of the relationship, but don't repackage falsely how you see this person just to make this decision, bring the truest possible package in view and then let the truth of what you actually feel and think now be seen so it will not return later to bug you and hurt you. The key then is not to induce false information, uncommon deductions to sign out. You may have real objections that can also be signed off on as well so you need to be careful in spots.

Before you sign off on decisions, especially is it might carry a lot of emotional weight for you, be extra careful to meditate on just what this really means to you and emotions like the sea which goes out only to return again may come back in waves that could later be gigantic.

People might sugar coat negativities to roundly dismiss what might still be or really had been a real opportunity firmly based on what you really think, if you can dig for it and package it correctly to the truth.

For example, take some common problems with jobs. Your boss, is silent until you make that one mistake. How does this reverberate to all of you and your thinking? At this point you feel you aren't the most desirable person on the planet, but maybe you aren't in the place where this is happening for you, and this situation can be falsely seen as a comfort zone because when you are just coming up for air, you are tending to look for the familiar, not searching a wider landscape of possibilities that are starting to come into view when you have taken a few steps in peace. What negativity does then, is it tends to constrict and that constriction means we are only looking at the corner of a package. Look at the Titanic, it wasn't only the visible package of the iceberg it hit that made the berg such a danger. The iceberg is seen as a whole, would have to include the underwater part which made it that much bigger of a package to navigate around. Then the job you have as a package might even be worse then what you are seeing in individual components. So package not only matters towards what might be good and desirable, but also packaging matters for getting together a proper view of the iceberg you don't want to hit because if the thought to be unsinkable Titanic can go down, so can you. And thinking about it, once out to see, the utter vastness of the sea dwarfs the size of any ship, as it leaves the shore and becomes more part of the vast sea lanes. So have a healthy respect of what you are actually dealing with.

You have a couple of legitimate things about yourself that could be better developed, but you one in on them ad infinitum, to the point you are not weighing the body of evidence of yourself. Which is why you see people striving excessively, which is just another type of excess which obscures. And excess includes not doing, it is excessive for example to not exercise at all or very little.

You might need to drop some rules overboard, yet some rules of the sea will still apply. If your navigating more difficult waters, respect that, you may need to adjust to the whole of what you see while at the same time honing in on specifics and be malleable to what the body of evidence is, it may be shifting and keep watch at port for changes that are significant, do matter, and can make a big difference in the seas ahead. The zone for you might be different than the zone for someone else and that is why it is wrong for you just to simply adopt rules or precepts to your situation since the ruler of your court on many of these things is actually you and your own individuality and therefore you need to do the work of rightly packaging for yourself and finding the zones of success for you.