It IS a small world: the "6 degrees of proximity"
- Date: 2007-09-13 - Word Count: 597
Share This!
Do you remember the last time you were on a holiday and met another compatriot? Ten to one you discovered you had a mutual contact and that one of you made the remark: "It is a small world, isn't it?". This happens a lot on holidays. It even seems that this happens more abroad than in our daily lives. Is this a coincidence? Or is there more?
It is not that odd. We indeed live in a small world. The first person who started doing research in this area was Stanley Milgram. In his 1967 "small world experiment" the theory of the "6 degrees of separation" was born. This theory states that everybody in the world is connected via 6 steps (read: people). Several other studies between 1967 and today have proven that this is indeed the case.
Let's also look at this theory from another angle, from a more mathematical one. Let's assume that everybody has on average 250 contacts (professional and private ones). Each of these 250 contacts also has 250 contacts. If we conservatively assume that you know half of those people yourself then every contact of yours knows 125 people you don't know yourself. This means that in the second degree you have access to 31.250 people. And that is were the real power of networking is: in the second degree. You don't only have many more opportunities, you also have a bond of trust via your mutual contact.
This principle of the "6 degrees" that I call the "6 degrees of proximity" (if you can contact anyone in the world via only 6 people you are rather connected than separated, aren't you?) can also be found on the online networking websites LinkedIn (http://www.linkedin.com) and Xing (http://www.xing.com). You don't only see how many people you can reach in second degree, but also who these people are.
What is the value of this insight for me? That we can deal with each other in a different way on events, cocktail drinks, online networks and other networking functions. Too often participants of events don't feel comfortable because they feel like having to "sell" themselves or their organisations (see the article in the previous issue about the difference between selling and networking). And because they don't like someone else approaching them with this attitude they don't want to radiate this themselves to others as well.
But if you know that the greatest value of the network is in the second degree, you can deal with people in a different way than "selling". In your next conversation on a networking event, look and listen for what the other person can do for your network and your network for him. And the other way around: what the network of this person can do for you and you for his network. You won't only discover more opportunities, but also have another kind of conversation and more enjoyable one !
PS: if you discover that you and the person you are talking to can help each other or can do business with eacht other, don't miss this opportunity! You don't have to exclude yourself and only think about the needs of your network instead of your own. However, by starting your conversation with this networking attitude, you can get another kind of conversation with surprising results!
This is an excerpt from the book "Let's Connect!" that will be launched on October 9, 2007. Buy the book on that date on Amazon and you will bonuses from 31 organisations! If you want to be notified for this launch, you can leave your name on http://www.letsconnectbook.com.
It is not that odd. We indeed live in a small world. The first person who started doing research in this area was Stanley Milgram. In his 1967 "small world experiment" the theory of the "6 degrees of separation" was born. This theory states that everybody in the world is connected via 6 steps (read: people). Several other studies between 1967 and today have proven that this is indeed the case.
Let's also look at this theory from another angle, from a more mathematical one. Let's assume that everybody has on average 250 contacts (professional and private ones). Each of these 250 contacts also has 250 contacts. If we conservatively assume that you know half of those people yourself then every contact of yours knows 125 people you don't know yourself. This means that in the second degree you have access to 31.250 people. And that is were the real power of networking is: in the second degree. You don't only have many more opportunities, you also have a bond of trust via your mutual contact.
This principle of the "6 degrees" that I call the "6 degrees of proximity" (if you can contact anyone in the world via only 6 people you are rather connected than separated, aren't you?) can also be found on the online networking websites LinkedIn (http://www.linkedin.com) and Xing (http://www.xing.com). You don't only see how many people you can reach in second degree, but also who these people are.
What is the value of this insight for me? That we can deal with each other in a different way on events, cocktail drinks, online networks and other networking functions. Too often participants of events don't feel comfortable because they feel like having to "sell" themselves or their organisations (see the article in the previous issue about the difference between selling and networking). And because they don't like someone else approaching them with this attitude they don't want to radiate this themselves to others as well.
But if you know that the greatest value of the network is in the second degree, you can deal with people in a different way than "selling". In your next conversation on a networking event, look and listen for what the other person can do for your network and your network for him. And the other way around: what the network of this person can do for you and you for his network. You won't only discover more opportunities, but also have another kind of conversation and more enjoyable one !
PS: if you discover that you and the person you are talking to can help each other or can do business with eacht other, don't miss this opportunity! You don't have to exclude yourself and only think about the needs of your network instead of your own. However, by starting your conversation with this networking attitude, you can get another kind of conversation with surprising results!
This is an excerpt from the book "Let's Connect!" that will be launched on October 9, 2007. Buy the book on that date on Amazon and you will bonuses from 31 organisations! If you want to be notified for this launch, you can leave your name on http://www.letsconnectbook.com.
Related Tags: reception, networking, network, event, business networking, referral, online networking, introduction, elevator story, jan vermeiren, networking coach
Your Article Search Directory : Find in Articles
Recent articles in this category:
- The No. 1 Rule For Projecting Confidence - Speak With Authority
One of the most important characteristics a person can project in a business setting - or any situat - After the Autumn Checkout European Debt Crisis and U.S. Brewing Rebound
In the commotion caused by the Fed on interest rates come to an end, the "disastrous" for the euro a - Advantages Of Arcade Game Rentals
There are many different advantages to arcade game rentals. Most people need something to release th - A General Primer on Truck Cargo Nets
In modern highways it is quite rare to see truck cargo nets in action, this is because they are usua - The United States Will Burst More Severe Financial Crisis
Not long ago, suddenly announced that the central bank to raise interest rates, the interest rate hi - Niche Marketing Profits - 3 Easy Steps to Finding a Profitable Niche Market Income in 10 Minutes
Like most beginners I was having a very difficult time trying to find a niche market to earn extra m - The Importance of Hospitality Management Consulting Firms Toronto
Businesses and the managers that help guide any business are in a constant state of improvement and - New Keynesian Theory Label
2010 winner of the Nobel Prize in Economics three theories have been labeled as "New Keynesian" labe - Federal Reserve Pouring Money QE2 Unpredictable Fortune
U.S. economist Milton Friedman proposed a "throw the cash from a helicopter" view, while the practic - Fiscal Consolidation Should no Longer Delay
British Chancellor of the Exchequer George Osborne today announced fiscal consolidation policy, shoc
Most viewed articles in this category:
- Common Financial Problems to Avoid
One must first change their habits and not procrastinate. American Consultants Inc at offers key fi - How a Bad Hire Can Hurt Your Business
What's worse - hiring the wrong person or not hiring anyone at all? Companies can become almost des - Joel Comm Is Dr. Adsense
What is Adsense? If you are new to making money online and net marketing, you may not know what Ads - 5 Steps For A Dynamic Wealth System Online
Recipe: Opportunity + knowledge + Dynamic Wealth System + Your Action = Massive Success!!! Step 1 - How To Stop Foreclosure
Losing your house to a foreclosure can be very scary. There are times when circumstances are ou - How to Always Pitch A Strike
As business owners, we are always working on new ways to convince people to become customers, client - Membrane Diffuser Solutions for Wastewater Treatment Systems
In the aeration basin of a typical wastewater treatment plant there are both organic and inorganic m - Another Year Hating Your Job or Loving Life?
Copyright © 2007 Mary Foley I've come to the conclusion that to be successful - really successf - Dyestuff Industry In India And China
World demand for dyes and organic pigments to touch $10.6 billion in 2008According to a study on dye - Cma-cgm Case : the Series of Lawsuits Continues in Syria, Lebanon, Egypt, France, England and the United States
Damietta company case : The series of lawsuits continues in Syria, Lebanon, Egypt, France, England a