Self-Confidence for Singles to Avoid the Partner From Hell
Nearly every time we turn on Television we see people bursting with self-confidence. One particular movie comes to my mind as a passenger has to land a plane, in which the pilots were gunned down by terrorists. This passenger recalled his novice experiences as he trained on a small fixed wing aircraft. Descending from a high altitude and approaching the landing strip he says to himself in encouraging manner, "I can do it. I can do it" and so he landed the plane.
Self-confidence is built on a succession of success. Success breeds success. Failure breeds failure.
When we learn a new language or learn to ride a bicycle, our first attempts were probably fairly meager in performance, but after repetitions our self-confidence rises, so that we make ourselves understood in the new language or take the training wheels off the bicycle. Small successes are the stepping stones for future successes.
Still, what would the failure-type do?
He/she would remember the effects and emotions of failed events, instead of concentrating on his/her strength and bringing his/her past successes to shine. All the good feelings that occurred in the process of achieving success are being eroded. He/she seems unable to be objective and think positively. The self-confidence will disappear.
The reader might ponder how one can be confident within a relationship without the threat of losing the partner? When we make our partner into an authority figure of our lives and psychological well-being, then it becomes difficult to be confident. The behavior of submission or the skill to deflect aggressive partner(s) is learned during childhood and is called operant conditioning. For instance, we learned to hide from a violent father or to fear our drunken mother. When years later a similar situation occurs during the relationship, our subconscious mind goes back to the childhood experiences that shaped our beliefs. Unless we re-learn or repair our beliefs it becomes difficult to feel confident and assertive. A lack of confidence therefore makes us vulnerable. We lose opportunity and we can become dependent within a relationship. Furthermore, we are not developing our full potential. The way to more self-confidence goes through awareness and self-improvement. In intimate relationships it remains the task of each partner to become psychologically whole as much as possible (or needed). This is the best way to avoid the partner from Hell, (or to become one) as they will probably look for shy, less confident targets.
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Norbert Henke is a counselor and psychotherapist. Based on his own painful experience he wrote the eBook (5o.ooo words): Frohmood's Smart Sex Drive for Singles, which can be found under http://www.smartsexdriveforsingles.com He hopes to enrich the reader's mind with knowledge to avoid emotional pain, become gradually emotional independent in order to produce a high quality of life. He practices under the name of Frohmood Psychotherapy in Sydney's West.
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