If women can tell when a man is nervous and scared from a mile away, why would that man keep focusing on the wrong solution?

He's still more interested in pick-up lines when he should be finding a way to effectively deal with the root of the #1 issue in his life.

It takes a very self-aware man to realize that there is an issue, and to work on the part that will actually lead to behavioral changes.

If he could find a way NOT to be scared and intimidated, then he'd start getting somewhere with women and wouldn't have to focus on pick-up lines.

It's like trying to fix your computer monitor that's right in front of you but it's really the problem that's deep within the hardware or software of the computer itself.

Heck, it's even like getting mad at your computer monitor right in front of you but the actual truth is, it's not the monitor at all..you just don't see the computer hidden under the desk or put the blame on it.

You may even be fooled like I was for so long even sometimes wanting to do damage to the computer monitor (those days are gone) when it wasn't the actual problem.

Using pick-up lines when a man is still communicating that he is uncomfortable and intimidated by a woman is like trying to fix the brightness setting on the monitor when there is obviously a much deeper issue.

What about areas that address the issue? Are they effective?

Many men have even tried hypnosis, NLP and meditation but it hasn't given them the breakthrough they were looking for when it comes to being fearless and confident around beautiful women.

Now they're at least working on the inside of the computer to fix the problem but you can improve the computer all you want and without a network connection, you're just going to connect as strong with another computer.

There are a lot of surface solutions out there that will make it look like men are gaining progress but they're really just acting and when they go home after a seminar or in-field work they'll feel empty again.

Great men have fallen prey to nervousness, frustration and ineffectiveness when it comes to being truly comfortable in their own skin around that which they desire the most and most areas they seek to help improve aren't that much of a breakthrough.

In order to resolve these deep-rooted inner issues of fear, incongruity and nervousness in behaviour around women (which is basically preventing everything from happening), we have to take an objective look at what's really going on.

Is it really a fear issue? Fight or flight?

Come on..we're talking about women. Why on earth would a man be 'afraid' of a woman. And to those women reading this thinking they'd 'better' be afraid, think about what you're representing right there and why you might be scaring off men.

Biologically man is NOT afraid of women. He is the leader, the provider and protector while the female is the nurturer. If man was afraid of woman there wouldn't be much procreation going on (oh wait..we have 40 year old virgins now).

So if it's not the woman 'biologically' herself and he IS a man, maybe it's something that she represents that is intimidating him. Some other characteristics is getting in the way and throwing things off.

Maybe it's not just him, maybe the problem is also her. Maybe it's greater than either of them but they don't know it yet.

Still..it's up to the man to 'know' because women expect you too.

Maybe it's her details such as how she acts, thinks and dresses that has a man instantly nervous the second he sees her or thinks about approaching.

At this point, I teach that inner game is not enough. A man can 'improve' himself unlimited in many areas but when it comes to success with women it's the relational dynamics involved which is outside of him that he is ignorant to.

That's why millions of men don't have power and strength around women. They do not have cognition itself that the problem lies outside of them and not inside of them.

Once they can 'see' the relational reality, only then will they be uninhibited, powerful and free in relationship to the most beautiful women in the world.

All verbal parlance will stem off of that complete physiological change which is not an act; it's a reality.

Either men are now ignorant (as they are conditioned), cognitive, are achieving cognition (my students), or ignorant yet effective (outcasts, bad boys and jerks).

A man can keep improving himself with meditation, hypnosis, NLP, body language exercises and even intriguing habits or experiences, but if he is ignorant to the powers outside of him which are the root of the problem, he will still be massively limiting his power in relation to all other power and women.


-Rion Williams