How Soon is Too Soon to Start a New Relationship After a Divorce?
- Date: 2007-08-24 - Word Count: 387
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While there's no real answer to this question, there are some important things to keep in mind.
Many people worry that it's too soon to have feelings for another person and worry about what their family and friends will say. In reality, you feel what you feel when you feel it, and you'll know when the time is right. Don't second guess yourself and don't let others tell you what you need to be happy.
When you get a divorce, it's very common to miss the companionship and closeness that you once had.
So what can you do?
Most importantly, don't try to fill that void with the first person that comes along.
And when you do meet someone, take it slow, worry a little less about the future and just go with your feelings today. Don't focus so much about the end result. Many people agonize about "where the relationship will go", etc. Stop it!
Enjoy your time on the phone. Enjoy going on dates. Just take it day by day. Don't worry about rushing into another long term relationship, especially since you just came out of a marriage.
I'm sure you've heard this: "Give yourself time to heal and get over the divorce." And that is quite true. Otherwise what you may end up doing is going into what everybody calls a rebound relationship, where you end up dating someone who is the complete opposite of your ex-spouse. In time, you'll find out that just because he or she is the opposite of your ex, they're not perfect either.
Recognize this type of relationship for what it is and you'll be fine. It's OK to spend some time with someone who is the opposite of your ex. It's like a breath of fresh air. Just don't get too excited, because rebound relationships normally don't last. The right person for you is probably somewhere in the middle of what you left and what you've just found.
In summary, just take it slow and enjoy it day by. There's absolutely no need to rush into a serious relationship. You've finally got your freedom, so why not take some time to enjoy it?
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Many people worry that it's too soon to have feelings for another person and worry about what their family and friends will say. In reality, you feel what you feel when you feel it, and you'll know when the time is right. Don't second guess yourself and don't let others tell you what you need to be happy.
When you get a divorce, it's very common to miss the companionship and closeness that you once had.
So what can you do?
Most importantly, don't try to fill that void with the first person that comes along.
And when you do meet someone, take it slow, worry a little less about the future and just go with your feelings today. Don't focus so much about the end result. Many people agonize about "where the relationship will go", etc. Stop it!
Enjoy your time on the phone. Enjoy going on dates. Just take it day by day. Don't worry about rushing into another long term relationship, especially since you just came out of a marriage.
I'm sure you've heard this: "Give yourself time to heal and get over the divorce." And that is quite true. Otherwise what you may end up doing is going into what everybody calls a rebound relationship, where you end up dating someone who is the complete opposite of your ex-spouse. In time, you'll find out that just because he or she is the opposite of your ex, they're not perfect either.
Recognize this type of relationship for what it is and you'll be fine. It's OK to spend some time with someone who is the opposite of your ex. It's like a breath of fresh air. Just don't get too excited, because rebound relationships normally don't last. The right person for you is probably somewhere in the middle of what you left and what you've just found.
In summary, just take it slow and enjoy it day by. There's absolutely no need to rush into a serious relationship. You've finally got your freedom, so why not take some time to enjoy it?
Wait. Get more great dating tips and relationship advice at www.AskDanAndJennifer.com. Ask us your most pressing questions about Dating, Relationships, Love, and Sex.
Copyright 2007, www.AskDanAndJennifer.com. All rights reserved.
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