If asked, define your workplace, what would your answer be. A place that that's fun, exciting and stimulating or one that's staid and dreary. Most likely we will go with the second description. Ever wondered, why? Why we have to get up every morning or even night and force ourselves to go to a place which, given a opportunity we might set fire to but then we know life is cruel and not all our dreams come true.

What makes our workplaces so boring and arid? To start with we need to understand that offices are mini societies and we have a role to play in it. The air might be serious and formal but that doesn't imply that we become android, in the way we think and act. Workplaces need discipline, but one that doesn't try to alter our personalities to the extent that we start feeling that we are loosing ourselves and trying to be something we are not.

Irrespective of where we are, we will still be humans and exhibit aspects of our personalities, good or bad. We often forget that we are dealing with real people in our workplaces and not mere human resources. Interactions here are of a more complex nature as one has to be politically correct and abide by the rules, nevertheless at the end of the day we are dealing with human emotions. It is in this context that behavioral aspect of a employee becomes important. It is not rocket science, it simply means that we pay attention to things that matter to us and have a direct relation with the way we conduct ourselves and how we perceive different people and situations in our workplaces.

Our attitude, anger, stress management abilities, interpersonal skills, communication skills, leadership qualities, emotional intelligence, being introvert or extrovert and like all have a major role to play in creating a world around us where we can be at peace with it or just dislike it. When we don't get along with our colleagues or when our seniors seem to be finding us incompetent for all the wrong reasons, instead of frowning and getting annoyed with them we should endeavor to understand what are the real reasons behind their behaving in that manner. Sometimes, people might have genuine problems which we fail to see or the person in question has a problem outside the office or maybe some people just like it that way as it is their only way of getting attention. There could be several reasons, it is upto us to decide whether we really want to solve this mystery that is getting obscure everyday or want to leave it unresolved.

Remember, you can make the difference. Be nice to people and yet be firm. Try to make your workplace that you don't loath going to, make it a place, which has warmth and relaxes you and your friends and is fun to work in. It is easier said than done, with the deadlines to be met, clients calling in, reports to submitted, getting late for an appointment and all that goes on in a regular office but that's what work is all about. Its up to us to learn to handle the situations positively and come out learning something new from them, however small. It takes a lot of practice, perseverance, the right attitude and most important of all the willingness to do so. It is all in our hands and it all starts with questioning ourselves- what kind of world have I created around myself, because what we give is what we get.