Should A Woman Approach A Man And Ask Him Out On A Date?


by Christine Akiteng - Date: 2007-03-22 - Word Count: 525 Share This!

Old school says, "No, it's the man's job to do the pursuing." Reality says, "Sure, why not?" And why not indeed - especially when it works.

When you're in a club, store or restaurant and you see a guy who floats your boat, you will have one, maybe two opportunities to connect with him. And if he doesn't see you but you notice him and don't speak that moment of indecision means that your potential Mr. Right might just walk out the door without your having given yourself the opportunity to meet and greet him and check him out.

Women should initiate conversation with men they find interesting and want to talk to. That first contact [by a woman] does not have to be a seductive come-on as many women think it should be. Start a conversation rather than just wait for the man to follow through. Give him a chance to see your perkiness, your zest, your intelligence. He gets a feel for you, and you do want to determine if the guy is in a relationship or not. You don't need to go further if he isn't interested or if he's already involved. You are just interested.

For advice on that first initial contact. Try complimenting his taste (but make it genuine): "That is a great shirt! or "Your accent is charming" etc. Avoid questions that can be answered with a yes or no. If you have a more bold personality say something like, "You look like someone I'd like to get to know," Or ask if you can tell him a secret, then whisper in his ear (it always gets their attention): 'I just love your tie...can I buy it from you when you are done with it?'.

Should a woman ask the man for a date?

Again, yeah, why not! I have in the past asked men out and they did not think it was "weird", infact they thought that I was "different - self-confident - and not like other women". And despite what you may think, confidence is sexier than looks anytime. And over the course of my work as a Dating and Relationships Coach, I've met and worked with dozens and dozens of couples where the woman did the asking and the result is a happy, balanced, long-term life together.

For me I think the question should be more about what's the best way to do it? It's okay to ask a guy if he wants to meet for coffee, but it should be just an exploratory meeting. You can see from there if one or the other might want to take it further. If you're really nervous, turn it around and be teasingly playful: "I am about to do something I am going to regret... hmmm... like ask you if you'd like to go out for coffee - with me." If he says "I am sorry, I can't" congratulate yourself that you had the guts to ask a guy and go ahead and have that coffee by yourself, smiling.

Honestly what have you got to lose? It's all in how you do it. It's just an attitude. So go on Sister, it's your birthday... You can do it ;))


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About the Author: Christine Akiteng is an internationally renowned Sexual Confidence/Dating Coach and author of eBook: The Art Of Seducing Out Of Fullness™. Her unique approach to dating has helped hundreds create positive, constructive, honest and fulfilling relationships.

Christine's websites: http://www.torontosnumber1datedoctor.com and http://www.theartofseducingoutoffullness.com

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