There are dating coaches that say that by default your talking to a beautiful woman obviously means you're interested and there's no way around that. I disagree.

That's an amateur or limited level and if you believe that you're going to be stuck in a substandard level of effectiveness.

If you really had 'the power' you wouldn't fall into that line of thinking.

It says that your just being a guy means that you yourself have no standards and you would just screw anything that walks.

While it may be true that you might sleep with a woman of that beauty level, you can be fully congruent with the reality that you're going to make her think a little and work to show her interest (all that matters anyways) because YOU are the model of attraction; not her.

Besides, you may find that her inner character flaws are completely hideous. Once you reach a more advanced level you'll stop instantly giving your power up for women just because they are beautiful. It's not even the true real self anyways especially if she's leveraging social status to be the unnatural 'stimulus'.

If you want to remain amateur then go ahead and think that there's no way around it because the most effective seducers and the most desired men are those that remain a mystery and women try to figure out where they're coming from and if they're interested or not.

They don't have to explain who they are, they just 'are' a man of power and anything they say will further prove that point, even the smallest of things. Most guys are working WAY too hard at this thing.

These 'naturals' are the men that the women are wondering if he is actually interested in them or not and his strong and congruent body language which isn't thrown off by her is driving her crazy.

He's the Rated 'R' guy where she can't really tell where he's coming from, if he's interested, or just being social.

That is what she is looking for and where it starts; a man of power who isn't thrown off by her power; her equal or greater.

So if you believe that just by talking to a woman your entire 'game' is revealed, then there isn't much hope other than to be direct about it.

Sure there are those hardcore 'direct' teachers that say to sprout your interest in her with personal authority. I don't disagree with that but what that method of teaching does is it polarizes the results and you HAVE TO step up to be congruent with it or you'll look like a creep.

Even when you're congruent with that level of directness, you will get a lot of direct 'No's' but you will also get some immediate 'Yes's' because they know your reality and where you're coming from.

I prefer being the always powerful man who they just can't figure out where I'm coming from; consider it indirectly direct - the true path of the N.I.S. desired alpha male.

A game so tight that there essentially is no game; it is that smooth in open environments and before she knows it she's interested and often I've already set up the next meeting with her even thinking about it, just following along.

This means I can approach a woman socially and just talk perfectly normal and comfortably, yet my body language is saying all kinds of powerful things to her. It's my refusing to be anything but the stimulus in our relationship and my congruency to that belief allows women to start opening up to me.

Because it takes two to play the mating game, I will usually approach PG-13 or socially and then wait for them to start capturing my character strength and showing more signs of interest, then I can take it from there. That's the way it's supposed to be and almost anything else is creepy to the real beauties.

I always pass their tests if it ever gets to that point. It's more than just pretending to qualify them like other experts will teach as a technique. You really have to come from the strong frame of your Independence, knowing that you must be the stimulus for her to respond to and that you won't just hand over your balls on a platter to her the instant you see her.

The thing is, women at the level that you want can see through any level of game. The answer? To be invisibly stealth-like in your entire game without acting it. Basically to the point they can't tell that you have any 'game'. This is the most natural and it allows them to chase you.

It's kind of like just being NORMAL around the most beautiful women. What a concept isn't it?

But it's not acting or a technique because they'll see through that. You actually have to truly not care. You cannot have ANY fear of loss at all. What's the purest way to do this? Commit to a lifestyle of independence and only interdependence with other people. I teach this in Relational Dynamics.

That way, all of your behavior and actions will be congruent to your strength of independence. You wouldn't be giving up your power just because a woman looks sexy or hot because that's what is ironically preventing success in the first place. You'll have the strength to keep it.

You wouldn't be trying to qualify her (as a technique) or proving higher value or portraying active disinterest because those are all relational attributes that show that she had the power to begin with; you're just trying to win brownie points to 'get somewhere' when you weren't there to begin with.

That's a losing battle most all of the time. My advice? Be there to begin with and you'll always be closest to consistent and amazing results.

Because if you don't have the relational power or favor to begin with (by simply accepting and living it through relational dynamics), you'll instantly enter the pre-game of dating set to lose. It's already to late when you go in because you're fighting uphill and at best you'll get fools' mate of inconsistent results.

Apply Alpha Relational Dynamics and you can 'be' that man who can hold his own against any level of power or beauty and the game becomes easy. Women are looking for that man and I just don't have enough time for all of them! hehe.

There is a lot of opportunity out there to make connections with these women who are looking for that man who IS real and comfortable in his own skin.


-Rion Williams